My dad died of heart failure today.
We weren't close, but we weren't exactly estranged, either. I've known this was likely for a week. I talked to him a few times, but he was not always coherent.
I had a lot of complicated feelings at first, and have had good support from folks close to me. I realized a lot of me was grieving for the father he never was, the father I wished he'd been.
I'm sure it'll hit me later.
oh Tyghe, I am so sorry.
Sorry for the loss you currently are processing, as well as the loss that you have carried for years.
Sending hugs 💜
@tyghebright given what is implied I’ll just say peace.
@tyghebright oh, honey
The biggest of hugs to you. Take all the time you need to process this, and try to be gentle with yourself in the meantime. 🫂💙
very sorry, Tyghe. take close care, things may be turbulent unexpectedly. strength and condolences to you.
@tyghebright Be well my friend. Death affects us all differently, and you're allowed to grieve how you grieve.
@tyghebright Oh no, I am so sorry.
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Sorry for your loss. Hang in there 🫂.
@tyghebright I’m so sorry. 💜
@tyghebright I'm so sorry Tyghe. 💔
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I’m sorry 💜 Gentle hugs for your heart 💜
@tyghebright I'm sure the feelings are complicated, and I wish you peace as you navigate your loss.
@tyghebright Here for you, brother.
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I’m so sorry for the loss of your father 💔
Peace be with you🕊️
@tyghebright I understand those feelings. I'm sorry for the loss.
I’m so sorry. I’m glad you have support - with you as well as here. I find it notable that you recognize grieving who you lost as well as who you wished you had experienced.
Much love & comfort to you and your inner selves. May you experience the comfort of the essence of father energy in which you deserve to be held. In some important ways, although it may come late, it’s never too late to receive this essence. Truly. 💛
@tyghebright Sorry for your loss. Condolences to you now and in the coming months and years. ((❤️))
@tyghebright I can relate to much of what you're feeling. Hugs. Peace to you.
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My condolences.
Complicated feelings are understandable, and grieving for the loss of your father, both the reality and what he should have been, is valid.
If you need people to talk to or vent, know we are always here. 💜
@tyghebright I'm sorry Tyghe. It's never easy. 😟 💜
Oh, tyghe, I’m sending condolences for your loss. I know it’s a complicated relationship you and your dad shared, so going through the grief may be complicated, too. 💔
If you ever need to vent, please know I’ll be here, as I’m guessing, will a lot of CoSo folks. 🤗
@tyghebright so sorry for your loss.
I can definitely relate to the, grieving for the father he never was, part…
I hadn’t seen mine in 17 years when he passed. I’m here for you if you need
@tyghebright my condolences 🫂
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I am sorry. 😓
I really can empathize. My dad is alive but 88. It’s been complicated all along. It’s going to be strange when he goes. I’m glad for you that you have the love and support around you. ❤️
@tyghebright I've just seen this news on the death of your father.
I hope you and your siblings are able to find memories and bright spots that help you through all the weeks ahead.
Remember to eat (it's one of my flaws), and navigate your #grief in the best ways you can.
You are not alone
@tyghebright I very sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself and talk to folks. it's healthy.
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I’m so sorry, Tyghe. 🫂
@tyghebright sorry for your loss 💔, your grief will show up when you least expect it. Take your time and be kind to yourself.
I'm sorry Tyghe. 💔
@tyghebright I’m so sorry. I’m glad you have support close by. 💜
@tyghebright Sorry to hear dude! Blessings to you and your family. 💔
@tyghebright My condolences. I hope that with support, you’ll be able to process your feelings for the Father he was and the Father he wasn’t. 💔
I'm so sorry, T.
Here for you if you need anything. Be gentle with yourself. Biggest hugs.
@tyghebright 🖤 much love to you.
@tyghebright Oh I'm so sorry to read this. Thoughts to you and yours 💔
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I’m so sorry. My heart goes out to you.
@tyghebright If you need to talk, my friend, my DMs are always open.
The lost of a parent is a hard thing. I think I speak for all of your coso buddies when I say we're here for you.
@tyghebright I'm sorry to learn about these news Ty, I mostly felt like that when mom passed away, please be kind to yourself, and allow yourself time to process all this.
Hugs and take it easy.
@tyghebright it’s okay to grieve. 🫂
@tyghebright my condolences. It's good to hear that you have support.
@tyghebright Big hugs for the grief now and strength for the grief to come 💜 💜💜
I’m sorry for your loss.
I am sorry. I had the same kind of situation with my dad. Not close. Not estranged. Knew he was dying. Wish he could have been a dad and not just "a provider". I've not felt grief - it just never hit. He died in '94.
Whatever you feel, or don't feel, don't think that because it's not what others expect you to feel that it's somehow invalid or not the right thing to feel. One size does not fit all.
@tyghebright 💔 no words
@tyghebright Everything you are feeling is ok. Sometimes a family member’s death brings us feelings of ambivalence and relief and even freedom. Everything you are feeling is ok. ❤️🙏❤️
Were you able to say goodbye to him? Did he recognize you? Lots of factors go into grief.
Take the time you need to process this change in your life. It's a rite of passage after all.
In 4 days it'll be 8 yrs since my own dad died. We were able to visit him on his deathbed and say goodbye. I promised him I would take care of my mom and that it was OK for him to fly away. We had a complicated relationship over the years but he was a pleasant man to deal with in his last years. That was definitely a blessing!
I was able to talk to him a few times over the last week. He was varying degrees of lucid, but definitely aware he was talking to me and usually aware he was saying goodbye.
Sounds like as good of last visits as you can hope for.
@tyghebright I'm sorry for all you've lost. Treat yourself gently as you ease into a new reality. I feel you about the complicated feelings... sending condolences & hugs. 💜
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My condolences.
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