Okay, everybody give me a hand. What is your favorite thing to do when you are sad to lift you up? What helps blast away the melancholy when it hits you?
Help cheer me up ❣️
@Keysalagain
Here already. It helps. For sure.
^^ this! @Keysalagain
and sleep. @CinnamonGirlE
@Armchaircouch @Keysalagain
No doubt. Even when everything's perfect, no sleep will soon get you down. 😉
@CinnamonGirlE I come on here and I read @TheNewsOwl's #comics thread.
@stueytheround @TheNewsOwl
Thanks Stuey 😊❣️
I will do it.
The list I just posted was meant for you. But it's early & I goofed.
Hope it helps.
hug my giant furry dog, boop, and take her out. 💖
@JanetZumba_FalPals
No doggie at the moment, but giving my kitty some love 💙
@CinnamonGirlE
Animals or babies or baby animals - bonus points if they areb in costumes...releases oxytocin
@damselfly59
I have a few littles in my future. It ALWAYS helps. Impossible to feel bad around them.
@damselfly59 yeeesss 😊
@CinnamonGirlE @damselfly59
If I am ever down, hanging out with my grandkids will fix it in a minute. They have a German shepherd named Stella but she follows me everywhere and will not leave me alone ever so she drives me crazy.
@Idissent @damselfly59
I will be getting them later today, so that will help. 😉😊
@CinnamonGirlE @damselfly59
Nice, I'm really happy to hear that. For me personally it helps more than anything to be around these 2 beautiful little girls who love me no matter what
@Idissent @damselfly59
That really is a special love. One that nothing else in the world is like.
@CinnamonGirlE @damselfly59
No, I never knew I could love like this until they arrived. My oldest is 18 and lives in Texas with her wife so I don't get to see her very often but the younger ones know they will see me on the weekends and I will be doing something with them regardless of what that might be
@Idissent @damselfly59
My two oldest are older teens as well. Living their best life the way it should be. I don't see them nearly as often anymore since they are this age, even though they are close by. But the littles are more frequent. Lapping up every last second of this time, because it will be on to their next phase soon, as it should be.
@CinnamonGirlE
My youngest is 5 and I tell her that there will come a time when she doesn't want to be with me as much as she does now and she will not hear that. No, Oma I will be with you every day! I just chuckle and hug her again
@Idissent
I still see the older ones and it is special. It's just a special bond for all of us. And I am so grateful for that. I loved my grandparents, and even once grown, they still helped shape me in positive ways. I hope I have done the same for mine. And what they have done for me is immeasurable.
@CinnamonGirlE
I never had a chance to get to know mine. Both of my mom's parents had already passed and my dad's passed by the time I was about 8 so I never had the privilege
@Idissent
That makes the bond with your grands even more special them. You have a chance to give them something fate denied you. For all of you now ♥️
@CinnamonGirlE
And I am taking full advantage of it. I couldn't love 3 people more if I wanted to. I hope you're feeling a little better and I love having these conversations with you. #CoSoLove
@Idissent
And me you 🥰
I do feel a little better. 😌
@CinnamonGirlE
It's funny but this helps. I've never been on a social media site that made me feel better but here we are. I'm scared for my girls, I can't accept that they are losing their rights or that their mother or father don't care. It's so mind blowing to me. How do you say that you love your kids but vote against them? My oldest ones marriage could become illegal if they get their way. How are they okay with that?
@Idissent
I love CoSo. A safe place with good people who are real. Not like any other site, ever.
I say the same of republican women. Really, you don't want to vote for yourself? And yes, your dtrs, grands, nieces, sisters, friends?
And for anyone who wants to love who they want to love? How can you do that? You really wants to worry about who is loving who in this horrible world? We should be celebrating every time that happens!
@CinnamonGirlE
Right? How anyone doesn't understand that love is love is crazy to me
With you here-- been feeling the sads myself lately. Couple suggestions:
- Move your body, take in some fresh air and get your circulation going. Go for a walk, exercise, ride a stationary bike, etc.
- Look at something you find beautiful and comforting. For me that's photos of houses and interiors on Instagram (go figure). YMMV.
- Read a favorite book, watch a fun movie.
- Talk with a friend if their available.
Hope this is helpful!
@ChelseaGirl429
Going for a walk shortly. This always helps. And plan on connecting with some folks later today.
The impulse to just sit down and be enveloped in it is too strong. Movement and connection are huge. Thanks so much ❣️
@ChelseaGirl429
And you feel better too 😘
Let us know how it goes. BTW--love the avatar!
@CinnamonGirlE I pet my cats. Best way to relieve stress.
@GaryPoole amazing how just connection with another living soul helps. Albeit canine or human and feline. ❣️
@CinnamonGirlE going for a walk outside with a family member.
@AverageCitizen absolutely this ❣️
@CinnamonGirlE
Hi Cinnie, for me it's grandkids, meditation, going to the library and catching up with old friends that I haven't spoken to for a while
@Idissent
All good things. Meditation is something that is amazingly helpful.
Upbeat music that makes me want to dance usually helps me.
@misterfive
Me too! You can't be sad and dance at the same time. Not to MoTown/ Led Zeppelin.
#nudipics /#nudipix often get me feeling good on soggy days
#WomenInCharge / #herstory definitely good for inspiration
Youtu.be with Anna Lapwood for rabbit holes
https://youtu.be/fyxq39JN_sE
@Mauve_matelot
Thank you Eleanor, so much! I will check out every one 🥰
@CinnamonGirlE
Bust on Trey, it will cheer ME up.
@Bix
Well you succeeded in making me laugh. 😂🤣
Thanks! 😉
Sorry Trey!
@InUnfunky
😂🤣
Wow! Now I feel better. 🤪
Pffffft. Masochist. 😏❤️😉
If you have like-minded/empathetic friends…talk to them.
Failing that —
1) Sometimes there’s no choice but to stew in it. Stare out the window and just do nothing. Eventually the feeling will pass, especially if you are aware that there are others like you.
2) Self-reflection/introspection — analyze the root causes of said melancholy. What was the cause? More than one? Can you do anything about the instigating factor/s or no?
If no, see 1). 😏
@InUnfunky
You are wise my friend. When a mood like today hits, just a combo of 1&2 are necessary for a period of time, usually a day before I move on to my more cheerful and optimistic self. Introspection is huge, at least for me. And like all human creatures, turns out I am pretty complex and layered. Not always easy. But, what is?? 😏
(heh #notall human creatures -- at least on an emotional/thinking level -- maybe THAT's a partial cause of said melancholy 🤔 🤷♂️)
Did you suppose you were NOT "complex and layered"? I disagree.
👍
Yes but also -- I average about a day a week (about an afternoon or so) of "wallowing in it." Yes, literally just sit and stare out the window until the feeling passes...or I feel like an idiot for just staring out the window for too long. Either/or. 😎
@InUnfunky
Definitely definitely on a partial cause of melancholy. Unaware people aren't the same.
No, i have known for some time i was complex and layered. 😎
Sorry you understand, but bouts of melancholy are familiar to you as well I see. Hate when I go there. But learning still at this age how to navigate.
Comfort myself with the fact, when we quit growing we die. A lifelong pursuit in all ways. ☺️
Most people -- "not all" (my logic profs wagged fingers at generalizations) -- don't care/want to look beneath the surface. Some can't help themselves...
When I was a kid, I was a "worrier." As 55yo kid, I still am; all worries big and small, heh. This sometimes led to (mostly teen to early adult) ending of relationships which was upsetting. Had to be done or no emo/intellectual growth. Sad!
Induced crippling ?s in the past, now is just half day a week of blahs. 🤷♂️ 😉
@InUnfunky
Yes, completely get this. Looking back. I realize I was always a kid who gauged everyone's emotions around me. Adjusted accordingly. Carried that to adulthood and continued with caring for everybody around me in my professional and personal life.
Learning once and for all (hopefully!) how to prioritize me! And not believe I am selfish.
I have also learned better how to manage it all, as one does. 😉❣️
Cinni, I def think you’ve earned your “bit o’ selfishness.” It’s not like you’re going to turn into a sociopath. 🤔😝
Speaking of, that’s why empathy is important as we know. But “too much” empathy minus the guardrails of critical thought can be trouble (as we know); “open minds but not so open our brains fall out” etc.
Still, tho — better to “feel too much” and make a mistake, and THEN COURSE CORRECT (which presumes thinking and discernment) then not. I feel. 😉😀
@InUnfunky
Thank you Trey.
Follow our hearts, but don't forget our brains ♥️
@CinnamonGirlE Music. Music always makes me feel better. There are lots of songs that help and you probably have songs that help you too. I hope you feel better, soon.
Also, weed. 😀 
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