UPDATE on my son's plea deal.
Not great but not horrible
1 felony dropped (this was a stupid charge of gun w/ INTENT)
2 drug felony will be dropped upon completion of 18 mos drug court. He will have counselors and monitoring.
3. The possession of silencer is going to proceed. The prosecutor cannot guarantee no jail time (but at least it would be the local jail and not effing prison)
Obviously we are hoping for probation
1st offense Non violent felonies can be expunged after 5 yrs.
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@ucantstop_me What a mess. So sorry you are dealing with this. I hope there is a manageable outcome π«
@gemswinc it was much messier 3 mos ago. now we are getting through it. We will manage. Even if he spends time in jail, he will manage
We are grateful he's still with us. The possibility of death was real that night. We had called cops the minute we realized the danger. The seargent called us back in 10 mins saying they had him (traffic stop)
I kept thanking him over &over while I spewed out the story of this guy & the bad places (Drugs, pill presses & fentanyl)
My son turned them in too
@ucantstop_me Glad you are getting through it. Hopefully w/ no jail time for son. And yes, alive is the best news. Sounds as though it could have been much worse. One of life's curve balls. I will follow the outcome. π
@ucantstop_me awww wishing you strength, hope and luck a you move through this daunting process.
Hoping your son takes the opportunity to rebuild his life without having to face the harsh consequences of incarceration. *hugs i understand how this can feel..
@Museek yes absolutely he's on board with this. The drug court and those social services will be good for him.
He's been in holding enough days to hate it. But it's little better on the jail side. This houses around 200 ppl and if he has to be incarcerated, this is a better than Jackson prison. I'd lose my mind if he had to go there.
Thank you for your caring thoughts, as always π
@ucantstop_me glad to hear he's on board with it.. its a pivotal time and he's lucky to have you deeply invested in his future and his well-being. He has a good chance to work through this and learn and grow from it. Sending you strength and hoping for the best. Sounds like holding, even though it can be harsh, woke him up. I'm sure you're relieved. <3 Hang in there
@ucantstop_me sincerely hope this will help turn his life toward a positive direction. π€
@hallmarc thank you. He's definitely ready. He's been clean for a few months but does struggle with cravings.
That God The narcissist is out of the picture. He's on the run.
This person fucked up all of us. My husband and I have been helped by a counselor who specializes in more serious disorders like borderline personality disorder and Schizophrenia along with parent counseling.
My husband googled emergency mental heath help and we got her π
@ucantstop_me Sending your family wishes for strength and love and compassion as you all and your son goes through this. ππΌβ€οΈ
Thankful counseling services have helped
^^^ reminder. The homemade suppressor was made by the narcissist. He put it on my son's 22 rifle. Yes my knew this but he was drug addled. (No excuse) bur this case does have some extenuating circumstances.
Between us, (and my son disagrees with this) but I think he was grooming my son to be his "enforcer"