Is it just me? 🤔 A serious question.
I was talking to a friend of mine, a woman of color, who is setting up a consultancy to help trauma survivors. I commented that what hurts one, hurts all, whether in our community, our country or our world. This seems self evident and obvious to me, but she mentioned that it is a foreign concept to many. So I thought i'd ask the CoSo community, is it just me who believes this or do others view it the same way?
I believe this as well. I also believe that sometimes to heal, you must first hurt.
Some parts of us must be destroyed so the body can heal. Like with Cancer.
The same is true of Society, in my opinion.
@killingfloorman there are people with empathy & people who either had empathy beaten out of them or were born psychopaths... so, no, unfortunately, it's not self-evident to some people
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I agree with you, I believe we cannot hurt others without hurting some part of ourselves too. Even in the most "obvious" circumstances where we have to engage in self-defense. Letting that hate in is actually damaging to us.
@killingfloorman Trauma has the ripple effect in communities not just one person is affected. All of us are. You're right.
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Absolutely!!
@killingfloorman People who think their trauma responses mean they are strong, but in a normal situation they just look like a massive jerk, they hurt many. Those whose trauma response is to pacify, they promote acceptance of bad behavior, causing harm. What hurts me the most is knowing all the pain out there, and feeling helpless about it. I have to shut part of myself off to cope with it, so yes it's a truth, and no, there will always be some who can't accept truth so not always self evident.
If you ask a person of color, they will have a different opinion.
@LnzyHou all of them would have the same opinion? 🤔 i didn't really get what you were saying, sorry.
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We all do better, when we all do better. That's a fact.
@killingfloorman I certainly do but there seems to be an entire generation that has a ‘me only’ attitude. Hopefully we can turn that around.
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“An injury to one is an injury to all.”
I believe this with all my heart.