Really starting to wonder how much of the "don't bother trying to change anyone's mind" dialogue is encouraged by people who don't want a progressive movement to grow, given the unwillingness of people to convert and recruit new supporters.
@DavidSalo Good point. When I think to it, I personally chose to avoid conflict (pre 2020 when I saw the to need to converse get more critical). Then I started taking notes on things. I did that because I knew I would get flustered and frustrated otherwise, that I would devolve into flustered mess and might provoke my own anger by trying to communicate. I suppose if I didn't have that awareness and had actually attempted communication, I would probably be more frustrated in general.
@tippitiwichet i don't bother to try & change rigid con minds b/c it usually devolves into them telling me i'm sub human, inferior, & too woke given i actually believe in the worth & dignity of peeps & that i'm a woman of colour. it is also, often unsafe for me to have that convo depending on venue & who i'm speaking to.
& i could put myself at risk & subject myself to verbal abuse & bigotry only to make zero headway. that seems a very low roi. i'm not interested.
@singlemaltgirl This is a common conversation, yes. And you have to put on some armor for them. And no, if you don't want to do that, you don't have to. However, going around telling each other not to try changes nothing. I 100% promise you that my angry mind has been changed before with the words of a frustrated black woman who tried to get me to understand things I didn't want to hear, and I heard them later when I calmed down. However, I'm def not telling you to put yourself at risk.
@singlemaltgirl I am saying that I would like you to know your efforts aren't completely in vain. You've probably done more good than you realize. No, don't put yourself through abuse. But know that conversatoin can work.
@tippitiwichet
This usually comes from unthoughtful, inarticulate people who are unable to explain why they have the opinions they have; and from people who prefer to be in a tiny clique of pure, righteous people, the smaller the better.