𝘌𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘩𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘢𝘱𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘪𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘧𝘪𝘳𝘮𝘦𝘥 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘨𝘳𝘰𝘸𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴, 𝘸𝘢𝘭𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘺 𝘸𝘢𝘭𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘳𝘶𝘯𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘺 𝘳𝘶𝘯𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 . . . 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦, 𝘪𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘢 𝘩𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘪𝘵, 𝘪𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵, 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘢 𝘩𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘦𝘭𝘴𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘥. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘪𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬 𝘪𝘯 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘥. 𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘳𝘺, 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘷𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘭, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘭𝘴𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘤𝘦𝘥 𝘢 𝘣𝘢𝘥 𝘩𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘵, 𝘢𝘥𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘶𝘦𝘭 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘪𝘳𝘦. - Epictetus

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Being angry about unchangeable situations means you're also unwilling to change and that is very telling.

You can't change other people and you can't change the world but you can change yourself ... but most people don't want to. It's not even a "can't" situation, it's a "won't" situation because they're too addicted to how anger and negativity makes them feel.

Self destructive people can never be in healthy relationships with others considering what they willingly do to themselves.

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The other thing about perpetually angry people, they suck the life and energy out of others in order to sustain themselves and their addiction to negativity and pain.

They use people to continue to feel angry or to replenish their need for anger. Picking fights, creating arguments, or just siphoning bits and pieces off of others to get their little fixes of confrontation.

They're dangerous people who only care about themselves and getting what they need for mock strength. They are toxic.

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One of the primary reasons I call angry people addicts is because anger is such a self destructive emotion that - not slowly - eats away at the body and mind and causes permanent damage and it still doesn't make people think that they need to make a change to any lifestyle that perpetuates things that are going to push them to an early grave. They choose it over peace, they hold onto pain over finding healing. They would rather choose those things over their own health.

That's addiction.

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Being angry at other people, or even yourself, is one of those situations where you have to wonder what the point of it is and what it's doing for/to you.

Being angry at outside things that you have absolutely no control over and no ability to influence or change is similar where you have to wonder what the point of that is and what it's doing for/to you.

Anger and stress are the fastest way to destroy your health not just mentally but physically. They are the number one killers.

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There is a significant difference between people who need support and people who need outlets.

Anger is an addictive emotion and people who thrive on it are absolutely addicts. They stay in the emotion, look for things to perpetuate the emotion, and - the worst part - they believe it's a positive emotion.

Addicts think that anger is something good, something that makes them stronger, something that helps them feel fearless. They think it bolsters them instead of weakening them.

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These same people would ask me how I could have evolved into someone who wasn't angry all the time and I would explain and they'd just laugh and not take it seriously which was fine but I really couldn't see myself continuing in any kind of relationship with anyone who essentially was addicted to negativity.

There is no room for anything in such people's lives and you will never be anything other than an outlet for their anger, mental dysfunction, and emotional dysregulation.

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#FirstCoffeeThoughts

In my youth I met a lot of angry people - high school, college, and well into my 30s. It was like any person I met was just really angry about a variety of things and it was usually family or work or themselves. Never anything else. It wasn't the world or anything like that. It was other people or themselves but especially family. It became very exhausting for me trying to be in friendships or relationships with people who chose anger over peace ... it wasn't healthy.

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𝘕𝘦𝘷𝘢 𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘯 𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺-𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘨𝘦𝘥 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘥𝘷𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘷𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘳𝘺 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘮 𝘣𝘦𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘢𝘤𝘤𝘭𝘢𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘥 𝘎𝘙𝘐𝘚. 𝘕𝘦𝘷𝘢 𝘤𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘪𝘤𝘭𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺 𝘰𝘧 𝘈𝘭𝘣𝘢, 𝘢 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘰𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘢 𝘤𝘶𝘳𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘸𝘰𝘭𝘧 𝘤𝘶𝘣 𝘧𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘶𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘤 𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘬 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘤𝘦𝘴. 𝘛𝘰𝘨𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘢𝘳𝘬 𝘰𝘯 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘭𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘫𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘯𝘦𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘢 𝘰𝘯𝘤𝘦-𝘣𝘦𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘭𝘥 𝘢𝘴 𝘪𝘵 𝘴𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘭𝘺 𝘥𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮.

This is everything I love about indie game studios featuring developers who want to truly create ART.

https://youtu.be/ZCvEtbD6D_A

#CoSoGaming #WhyIGame

#Cleddau (aka The One That Got Away) is a Welsh language (the best language) crime noir thriller and it's just another in a long line of them. Welsh crime fiction really has solidified itself as a TOP genre and honestly, I love them. Even just the first episode of Cleddau is WILD.

https://youtu.be/Gr1VsaSK6Fk

#RecluseReleases #DoNotMiss

This is quite good even though I'm not a Depp fan. Love Elden Ring and this is really well done and funny. 🤣

https://youtu.be/vHVQyr5CAsw

#CoSoGaming

The Pudding brilliantly examines who gets shipped in fanfics ... and why.

https://pudding.cool/2024/10/fanfic/

#FlowingData

Another great, informative video from #BlairImani. Her book "Read This To Get Smarter" is a great resource and highly recommended.

https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/678819/read-this-to-get-smarter-by-blair-imani/

https://www.blairimani.com/

I finally got the #Artemis bow to work. Wonderfitter had to send me a replacement arrow module after the Kickstarter one was faulty.

Let me tell you something ... archery is hard AF. My arm is killing me ... my shoulder especially and my string arm is my bad arm too so this will be a good workout for those muscles. I only shot like 10 things ... and it was rough. The tension in the bow is real, the weight is real, it's a real bow ... the quality is amazing.

#HealthyHikikomori #VRWorkout

#AsWeDescend is a city management, story rich, deck building, roguelike that ticks SO MANY of my boxes. The demo is absolutely OOZING atmosphere and wonderful feel. There is no release date (there rarely is) but I will absolutely be pouncing on the full game when it is released.

Amazing fresh new game!

https://youtu.be/GMjau2JgFls

#CoSoGaming

Robin Weigert left Tracker ... She is a way better actress than to be showing up just to make phone calls to Justin's character ... I wondered WHY she was on the show in such a limited role but actresses take roles for all kinds of reasons especially if they just need a check but don't want to commit to anything more. She was one of the main reasons I was watching the show but all the women are great so I'll stick with it. I don't even know why the supporting characters are here at all.

🤣 🤣 🤣

80s at the start of the week isn't great but I forget that 85 technically is the cutoff for balance.

I'm used to getting 90s or high 90s so for me being "balanced" usually means I'm not working hard enough but I know that technically these are good scores for someone with my chronic health issues. I can do better though.

#BeatSaber this morning was a welcome change.

I NEED to #sauna at least twice a day. It changes EVERYTHING.

#Sleeptracking #Oura
#healthtracking #HealthyHikikomori

Morning CoSo ❤️ Up an hour before my alarm. Time to start the day 👍🏾

Woke up. Got naked. Walked 4 steps. Got into the sauna (best medical purchase I ever made). Turned on the sauna speakers and listened to a new #audiobook (Her Majesty's Royal Coven) and relaxed. 50 minutes in, out to shower and exfoliate, and I feel amazing.

Woke up in a pain flare and now ... absolutely manageable and feeling epic. Ready to go about my day. Not to mention my brain feels more alert now that every neuron isn't focused on pain. 👍🏾

Self care is the best care. ❤️