𝘐 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘸𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘦𝘸𝘴, 𝘐 𝘸𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘦 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘔𝘠 𝘗𝘌𝘙𝘚𝘖𝘕𝘈𝘓 𝘌𝘟𝘗𝘌𝘙𝘐𝘌𝘕𝘊𝘌𝘚 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴. 𝘐𝘧 𝘐 𝘥𝘰 𝘸𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘦𝘸 𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘳 𝘱𝘪𝘦𝘤𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘮𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘢 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘴 𝘛𝘖 𝘔𝘌 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘤𝘩 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘢𝘣𝘴𝘰𝘭𝘶𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘺 𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘠𝘖𝘜. 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦, 𝘸𝘩𝘺 𝘐 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘪𝘵, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘺 𝘪𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘛𝘖 𝘔𝘌. 𝘈 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘦𝘸 𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘳 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘸𝘳𝘰𝘵𝘦 𝘪𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘵 𝘶𝘴𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘪𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘦𝘸𝘦𝘥.

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𝘐’𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘵𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘳 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘐 𝘥𝘰, 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘣𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘦 𝘢𝘴 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘮𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘢 𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘶𝘣𝘫𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘌𝘝𝘌𝘙𝘠𝘖𝘕𝘌 𝘐𝘚 𝘋𝘐𝘍𝘍𝘌𝘙𝘌𝘕𝘛. 𝘚𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘰𝘯𝘦’𝘴 𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘕𝘖𝘛𝘏𝘐𝘕𝘎 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘦𝘭𝘴𝘦. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘶𝘮𝘱𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘰𝘧 𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘌𝘕𝘛𝘐𝘙𝘌𝘓𝘠 𝘗𝘌𝘙𝘚𝘖𝘕𝘈𝘓. 𝘔𝘺 𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶. - Elaine Barlow

@corlin ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

@corlin The reality of this still seems to be this is something that white men do almost exclusively. I don't have any real research or way of saying this is 100% true ... but on social media white men seem to just really feel like they need to to insert themselves into absolutely everything for some reason that is beyond my understanding.

@corlin I have no answers or explanations for it (shrug).

@thewebrecluse

It is a difference in tone.

In black conversations, there is a back and forth, but it is grounded in either humor, and or oneupmanship. Like a horn and a sax taking rival solos.

In white conversations, there is always an implied superiority. Somebody has to win, or at least feel like they have won.

@corlin That makes a lot of sense ❤️ I never thought of it that way.

@corlin @thewebrecluse I have been tooling around in a white body for a while in the US.

I would not say _always_, but it's nearly always. It's like white guys from the US have to feel like they won the conversation or scored the highest points.

@AskTheDevil It's always giving MAJOR INSECURITY when it happens. Like ... only people who are deeply broken and insecure feel the need to try and "win" unwinable things to prove something or make competitions where there are none or prove to themselves they are ... important in some way. It's tedious and unfortunate to have to deal with all the time.

@thewebrecluse Tedious and unfortunate indeed.

@AskTheDevil @thewebrecluse

Ya.
That was an unfortunate exaggeration on my part.

No Not Always.
But yes most of the fucking time.

@corlin @AskTheDevil 🤣 ❤️

@thewebrecluse I'm saving this.

@AskTheDevil Back in the G+ days you had the ability to lock your comments to everyone or only to specific groups of people that you created. There were people that used to get angry about this feature ... they wouldn't follow someone if they weren't allowed to comment and I always wondered the kind of ego and self centeredness that kind of attitude took. People are truly unwell.

@AskTheDevil Literally

"I am not interested in your content UNLESS I am able to insert my personal opinion about it."

Seriously?

@thewebrecluse My typical response is that if you speak publicly in a public forum, you should accept that other people will respond.

But when someone is publishing what is essentially their own newsletter or writing, on a forum where you can disable commenting, there should be no such expectation.

I think we've gotten this new expectation that everything is a discussion, but sometimes, someone's not asking, they're just saying.

@AskTheDevil

𝘐 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘸𝘦'𝘷𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘯𝘦𝘸 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘴 𝘢 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘶𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘴, 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘰𝘯𝘦'𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘢𝘴𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺'𝘳𝘦 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘴𝘢𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨.

Exactly. Since it takes me 7-10 business days to make any sense when I write, this is essentially what I mean. If you're in a public forum which is a very specific kind of event with very specific expectations then yes. But social media is not technically a public forum, it CAN have similar aspects but not everyone uses it in the same way.

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@AskTheDevil This is why I really miss G+ because for all its faults and my complaints it didn't automatically assume that people were using it in exactly the same way and you could deeply tailor it according to how you personally wanted to use it, not based on what everyone else was doing. I have been on every social media platform and no other has had as many personalization aspects ever. I miss it a lot. That level of control and choice in how people interacted with you and your content.

@thewebrecluse I have to admit I miss G+ a bit too, for similar reasons.

@thewebrecluse @AskTheDevil OMG 😭. I miss G+ so much!!! Met quite a few really nice people I still talk to. One in particular who shares a love of Kpop and kdramas. I have yet to find a place to hangout at like G+. I keep telling that 1 friend to come here but she’s lollygagging. Sigh. G+ 😢

@NewYorkJellybean @AskTheDevil Most of my friends from the G+ days with the exception of @divisionbyzero stopped being interested in social media after G+ shut down. There is really nothing like it and I don't blame them. I tried to get them to come over to CoSo but they just get tired of moving from place to place. Yeah G+ really was a great social media experience. I loved it a lot.

@thewebrecluse @AskTheDevil @divisionbyzero My friend is usually on IG and I’m there maybe once a week. She’s also on FB but only once in a while. She and I were talking about G+ and DramaFever and how much we miss them. I told her about CoSo and you (Kpop, dramas and obscure stuff) hoping she’d at least come and give it a try.Sigh. I wish I had the knowledge to make a G+ like site. *cries*

@NewYorkJellybean I actually kind of like that CoSo doesn't have Kfanatics on it. I like kpop and dramas but only from a serious media standpoint not from a fanatic standpoint ... I kind of avoid places that cater to people that really have nothing outside of their love for things. It really ruins things for me. ❤️ I like to be able to enjoy things and talk to people who also enjoy OTHER stuff 🤣 and have lives 🤣

@thewebrecluse exactly why I follow you. I’ve always been into things that weren’t known to many people. I’ve been into Jdramas for decades. I’m a fan but not fanatic. I love discovering hidden gems and since the internet, there are even more out there to find and love. I know you’re into the K things but I also know you’re into so much more. You’re the kind of peep I love to follow because I learn about new music, art, entertainment, etc.

@NewYorkJellybean This is one of the most amazing comments. Thank you so much for receiving my content here on CoSo with so much positivity. I am just me on here. Being my fully authentic self is kind of boring for some people or annoying for others but hey this is me. This is my life. My interests. Stuff that moves me etc. It's nice to know some people do like it and are turned onto new things because of it. I'm so happy to be able to do that ❤️ Thank you for saying so ❤️

@thewebrecluse @NewYorkJellybean @divisionbyzero I had a similar experience. There were a few folks who I used to love following their posts there, but the only reason they felt _comfortable_ posting at all was because of specific ways it allowed them to interact or limit interaction.

@AskTheDevil @NewYorkJellybean @divisionbyzero

EXACTLY.

@thewebrecluse @NewYorkJellybean @AskTheDevil I know many people who felt betrayed by the loss of G+ and decided never to become that invested in a social media platform again. While I miss my audience and interaction on G+, I find it hard not to write or make videos, so I continue on various platforms. I just wish I'd done a better job of getting contact info for some of the people I met through G+.

@divisionbyzero @thewebrecluse @NewYorkJellybean Same.

@divisionbyzero

If you didn't constantly stalk me, you wouldn't have found me here so I appreciate that you do ❤️

@NewYorkJellybean @AskTheDevil