I don't know who needs to be reminded of this but:
Me expressing my own opinion of things on my own feed is not me trying to convince you of anything. It is MY opinion on MY own feed about stuff that is of interest to ME. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. I don't even know you.
If you find it interesting, awesome. If you think it's epic, even more awesome. If you don't care, then just move along. If you hate it, move along faster.
You don't have to respond to everything you see.
๐๐ด ๐'๐ท๐ฆ ๐ด๐ข๐ช๐ฅ ๐ด๐ฐ ๐ฎ๐ข๐ฏ๐บ ๐ต๐ช๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ด ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฆ ... ๐ซ๐ถ๐ด๐ต ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ค๐ข๐ถ๐ด๐ฆ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ด๐ฆ๐ฆ ๐ด๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฃ๐บ ๐ฐ๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ง๐ช๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ด๐ฆ, ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฆ๐ด๐ฏ'๐ต ๐ข๐ถ๐ต๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ค๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐บ ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ข๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ฐ๐ณ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ช๐ต ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ข๐ฏ๐บ ๐ฌ๐ช๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ธ๐ข๐บ ... ๐ฆ๐ด๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ค๐ช๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐บ ๐ช๐ง ๐ช๐ต'๐ด ๐ด๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ฉ๐ข๐ด ๐ข๐ฃ๐ด๐ฐ๐ญ๐ถ๐ต๐ฆ๐ญ๐บ ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฅ๐ฐ ๐ธ๐ช๐ต๐ฉ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ, ๐ช๐ด๐ฏ'๐ต ๐ข๐ด๐ฌ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ฐ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฏ๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด, ๐ช๐ด๐ฏ'๐ต ๐ด๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฌ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ง๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฅ๐ฃ๐ข๐ค๐ฌ, ๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ฆ๐ด๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ค๐ช๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐บ ๐ช๐ง ๐ช๐ต'๐ด ๐ด๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฅ๐ช๐ด๐ข๐จ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฆ ๐ธ๐ช๐ต๐ฉ. ๐ ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฏ'๐ต ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ด๐ฆ๐ฆ. ๐๐ต'๐ด ๐ข ๐ค๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ช๐ค๐ฆ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ข๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ฎ๐ข๐ฌ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ. ๐๐ต'๐ด ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต "๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ค๐ข๐ถ๐ด๐ฆ ๐น ๐ฉ๐ข๐ฑ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ด, ๐บ ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ด๐ต ๐ง๐ฐ๐ญ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ธ" ... ๐๐ต ๐ช๐ด ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ค๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ช๐ค๐ฆ.
Related essay if you're interested:
https://thewebrecluse.com/learn-to-mind-your-own-business/
Related CoSo thread:
@thewebrecluse I'm saving this.
@AskTheDevil Back in the G+ days you had the ability to lock your comments to everyone or only to specific groups of people that you created. There were people that used to get angry about this feature ... they wouldn't follow someone if they weren't allowed to comment and I always wondered the kind of ego and self centeredness that kind of attitude took. People are truly unwell.
@thewebrecluse My typical response is that if you speak publicly in a public forum, you should accept that other people will respond.
But when someone is publishing what is essentially their own newsletter or writing, on a forum where you can disable commenting, there should be no such expectation.
I think we've gotten this new expectation that everything is a discussion, but sometimes, someone's not asking, they're just saying.
๐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐ฌ ๐ธ๐ฆ'๐ท๐ฆ ๐จ๐ฐ๐ต๐ต๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ธ ๐ฆ๐น๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ค๐ต๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐บ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ช๐ด ๐ข ๐ฅ๐ช๐ด๐ค๐ถ๐ด๐ด๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ, ๐ฃ๐ถ๐ต ๐ด๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ต๐ช๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ด, ๐ด๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฆ'๐ด ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ข๐ด๐ฌ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ, ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐บ'๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ซ๐ถ๐ด๐ต ๐ด๐ข๐บ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ.
Exactly. Since it takes me 7-10 business days to make any sense when I write, this is essentially what I mean. If you're in a public forum which is a very specific kind of event with very specific expectations then yes. But social media is not technically a public forum, it CAN have similar aspects but not everyone uses it in the same way.
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@AskTheDevil This is why I really miss G+ because for all its faults and my complaints it didn't automatically assume that people were using it in exactly the same way and you could deeply tailor it according to how you personally wanted to use it, not based on what everyone else was doing. I have been on every social media platform and no other has had as many personalization aspects ever. I miss it a lot. That level of control and choice in how people interacted with you and your content.
@thewebrecluse @AskTheDevil OMG ๐ญ. I miss G+ so much!!! Met quite a few really nice people I still talk to. One in particular who shares a love of Kpop and kdramas. I have yet to find a place to hangout at like G+. I keep telling that 1 friend to come here but sheโs lollygagging. Sigh. G+ ๐ข
@thewebrecluse @AskTheDevil @divisionbyzero My friend is usually on IG and Iโm there maybe once a week. Sheโs also on FB but only once in a while. She and I were talking about G+ and DramaFever and how much we miss them. I told her about CoSo and you (Kpop, dramas and obscure stuff) hoping sheโd at least come and give it a try.Sigh. I wish I had the knowledge to make a G+ like site. *cries*
@NewYorkJellybean I actually kind of like that CoSo doesn't have Kfanatics on it. I like kpop and dramas but only from a serious media standpoint not from a fanatic standpoint ... I kind of avoid places that cater to people that really have nothing outside of their love for things. It really ruins things for me. โค๏ธ I like to be able to enjoy things and talk to people who also enjoy OTHER stuff ๐คฃ and have lives ๐คฃ
@thewebrecluse exactly why I follow you. Iโve always been into things that werenโt known to many people. Iโve been into Jdramas for decades. Iโm a fan but not fanatic. I love discovering hidden gems and since the internet, there are even more out there to find and love. I know youโre into the K things but I also know youโre into so much more. Youโre the kind of peep I love to follow because I learn about new music, art, entertainment, etc.
@NewYorkJellybean This is one of the most amazing comments. Thank you so much for receiving my content here on CoSo with so much positivity. I am just me on here. Being my fully authentic self is kind of boring for some people or annoying for others but hey this is me. This is my life. My interests. Stuff that moves me etc. It's nice to know some people do like it and are turned onto new things because of it. I'm so happy to be able to do that โค๏ธ Thank you for saying so โค๏ธ
@thewebrecluse @NewYorkJellybean @divisionbyzero I had a similar experience. There were a few folks who I used to love following their posts there, but the only reason they felt _comfortable_ posting at all was because of specific ways it allowed them to interact or limit interaction.
@thewebrecluse @NewYorkJellybean @AskTheDevil I know many people who felt betrayed by the loss of G+ and decided never to become that invested in a social media platform again. While I miss my audience and interaction on G+, I find it hard not to write or make videos, so I continue on various platforms. I just wish I'd done a better job of getting contact info for some of the people I met through G+.
If you didn't constantly stalk me, you wouldn't have found me here so I appreciate that you do โค๏ธ
@NewYorkJellybean @AskTheDevil Most of my friends from the G+ days with the exception of @divisionbyzero stopped being interested in social media after G+ shut down. There is really nothing like it and I don't blame them. I tried to get them to come over to CoSo but they just get tired of moving from place to place. Yeah G+ really was a great social media experience. I loved it a lot.