THIS is why I talk about my mom & dad so much... I was not in town when my mother or my father passed away, which makes it even harder to accept and deal with. Mom & I really started to reconnect again as mother & son when she passed in early 2000's. Dad & I didn't quite get that far but that was another situation. I would do absolutely ANYTHING for 5 more minutes with them both to tell them in person how much I LOVE them!
@poemblaze thank you Matt - as far as my father goes, my sister played a role in that by preventing me from even talking to him - 1 day I might forgive her for that, but I can't yet
@duglop That's another difficult thing. Hugs.
@duglop We humans can be huge pains in the ass when we think we can dictate what other people do. When someone is vulnerable enough we CAN dictate what they do. That makes it worse.
@duglop I get it. I was kind of able to ease into and prepare for my father's death. Even sat with him several hours after the machines were turned off, but he had been tubed for months, so I lost so much real conversation with him...
@duglop But in mom's case, I spoke on the phone with her on a Sunday, and she passed in her sleep a few days later. My last in person visit with her had been a few months earlier. I was gobsmacked. So sudden. So unexpectedly. So far from me.
@brainwise I got to see my mother a few months before she passed from cancer, but she wasn't the same person by that time with the morphine drip... but never got to even say I miss you or I love you to my father before he suddenly passed from dementia
@duglop I so understand this! Say what you need to say now because you may never have another chance. ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
@NorCalCherylLyn thank you, some days are harder than others - I'm not who I was when they both last saw me back then...
When mom died it devastated me
When dad died it changed me
@duglop I totally get it! Mom died while I was pg with her first grandchild after a long fight with MS. My Dad and Stepdad decades later but with lots unsaid…
@duglop Hugs. That's a difficult one. The fact you wanted reconciliation means it was there on your end. There was kindness coming from your direction.