Anyone experiencing sibling estrangement? Ghosted by a sibling & you have no idea why? Or by factors outside your control?
How do you deal with it?
@anita_rotheram I went through lengthy periods, sometimes 5 years, of estrangement from my brother. He saw the world differently and honestly life had less drama not seeing him. He’d show up and we’d start over. In the end, I was his primary decision maker as he died. There are things you can’t change. Keep the door open but move on.
@anita_rotheram i did the estranging b/c my sis was toxic to me. i didn't realize how normalized it had become until my son, who sees me take no shit from anyone, said to me that he didn't understand why his auntie treated me & spoke to me so badly. he was caught btw a rock & a hard place - loving his aunt but being protective of his mom.
that's when i told her we couldn't have any kind of relationship & why & cut her out of my life. she took my bros & told them to stay away from me.
@anita_rotheram I don’t really talk to my brother or my step siblings any more.
I know why, though.
In terms of dealing with it, I live very far away from them (other side of the planet) so I’ve never had high expectations that they will do any work to keep in touch so I just created my own circle of humans I actually like.
But for people who were close to sibs and no longer are, can be hard so sorry you’re going through that.
Talking to them an option?
@Astro_yyz I tried to talk him last year about plans for my elderly mom’s care. He said he “didn’t need details” and he “can get all the information from mom”. In other words, not interested in my observations/opinions or even how I’m coping. I wasn’t surprised or angry, just relieved that he had lifted the burden of communicating with him from me. I’m respecting his request now.
@anita_rotheram sorry to read though; my brother is similar. Doesn’t want to hear info- similar issues too! My sister and I (mainly my sister) are taking care of my Mum at home and while we don’t consult him, there are times when we really wish he could help more.
Families, eh?!
@anita_rotheram
My brother sometime a few years ago blocked me on FB, because of political differences. I suppose. He's pro drumph. I let him go. I send a birthday text, and ask how it going, no response. Hi ho.
@anita_rotheram I don't deal with it. They chose this path. I left them there in the dirt.