@Tiffanyclay HUZZAH
@WhoopassGirl Yup! It's a different life. Took a while for the world to catch up but at least it's "normal" now, for the most part. It's nice to be able to fluent in communicating with people all over the world, and being able to do so at ones' own comfort levels. You can disengage easily whenever you need to.
@WhoopassGirl Yeah, my older brother was that way. Just a natural fount of charisma, everyone loved him and loved being around him for that. Genuine envy and admiration for it.
Spent a long time doing it but I've since stopped trying to force myself into that box. Hence the history of inadvertent overstepping and missing social cues.
But it takes all types, I suppose.
@WhoopassGirl The communication skills are definitely a telling sign. I definitely like the freedom of being able to think and rethink and re-rethink a response to someone, or even outright just not responding right away.
I'd be lying if I weren't envious of the more sociable people. I can feign it enough to get by in small doses but it is DRAINING.
@WhoopassGirl Oof. Yeah all you had to say was Mormon, that tracks with everything else I've heard about the practices. Invasive is putting it gently. An old friend of mine was almost kidnapped by their former church.
@WhoopassGirl I think it plays to a social society though. An introvert myself, my best interpersonal relationships came from an extrovert just doing what they do and initiating or a brazen act of extroversion on my end. From what I gather I feel like a lot of introverted people would appreciate the attempts to get to know them, it takes the pressure of making the approach off them. Someone always has to make the first move, as it were.
@WhoopassGirl I want to be surprised that there would be groups that encouraged stalking but then I look at how rampant narcissism is today and have no problem whatsoever believing some people find stalking endearing.
@WhoopassGirl Yeah, it's a smart thing to be scared about. One of those senses of security I take for granted, I can't say I've ever had, or likely ever will have to be personally concerned about, but I've witnessed exactly what you've described and there was absolutely every reason to be concerned.
@WhoopassGirl Yeah, it's very situational. To play devil's advocate, I grew up as a very socially awkward individual, I could easily see myself failing to pick up those social cues and overstepping.
I feel like if they used it once, letting them know it's not okay would be the right approach, and however the person responded to that would then dictate the rest.
I've got a peculiar relationship with my name(s). You could call me Susan if it made you happy, I wouldn't care.
@northernbassist @altamaha I remember when it would be nearing the end of the term, my favorite professor would be like "Welp, tell your grandmas you love 'em 'cause they're gonna start dropping like flies next week".
@WhoopassGirl Names are a peculiar thing in and of themselves. Merely labels of sorts that we respond to.
I feel like it largely depends on whether or not the origin of the nickname is a point of pride or contention. It's less that they use it as it is how/why they use it, whether or not they're trying to imbed themselves closer to your inner circle, etc.
I'd likely just feel really uncomfortable depending. It's an intimacy thing.
@Museek Coffee shop.
@VirginMaryCandle If it weren't for the tattoos I'd say they were the same person. Nearly identical.
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