Some LGBTQ facts that most don't know about us.
Not all of us transition. Some of us are on blockers in our prepubescent stage to help us find a plan and path that works for our identity. While others of us are okay with our body though we identify as nonbinary.
Our population is actually a lot smaller than most people assume, given the bad media and press about us. We number less than 1% of the LGBTQ community, and that makes us less than .2% in the US population. Tiny demography here! #LGBTQ
@PaganMother
I recently witnessed a friend of mine going through a child coming out as non-binary. They did so a few months before their ninth birthday. The fact that they could start living in their truth at that age, made me happy and gave me hope. It also made me wonder: what of those who don't have two supportive Moms to cheer them on? How many young ppl lack the concepts and vocab to express their truth because of unsupportive environments?
@publickovacs I grew up in a heavily sheltered family, military child, so I didn't get to build relationships or friendships to support myself emotionally or to develop socially as well as most folks with stable families did. The only person in my family that knew I was trans from the age of 8, was my mother, my father refused to accept me as me and scared me straight back into the closet after taking away anything boyish/masculine related from me. It took me 20+ years to come out again.
@publickovacs I won't say that my case was typical, far from it, but for the 80's to the 2000's children, this was very much the concept of strict upbringing that many families faced and supported.
@PaganMother
That sounds so sad and so true
@PaganMother
I am very sorry that your father was unsupportive and traumatizing. I am glad your mother was able to be a supportive presence.
@publickovacs She was until the day she passed on. I'm proud to say I walk in her footsteps, in spite of not identifying as she did. She opened the doors for me to better understand my own talents and abilities as a person, though it oft leaves me vulnerable at times emotionally, but she was a wise woman and I wouldn't have traded her for anyone else in her place.
@PaganMother
That is such a beautiful tribute. I am deeply sad that she is no longer with you.
@publickovacs Just because she doesn't walk this plane with us, doesn't mean she's not still here in essence. Her influence in my past shaped me, it's because of her that I took interest in art as a kid. She showed me ways to express myself that allowed me to cope with being in the closet all those years.
@publickovacs I take peace in that, ya know? Sometimes I can even feel her hand on my shoulder from time to time. It's just a sense thing.
@PaganMother
That is beautiful and makes perfect sense 🫂
@PaganMother I hope I’m alive to see a progression in our society that can finally understand that it shouldn’t matter what makes any individual happy. It should be enough that they are just that, comfortable and happy.
For a lot of us, we lacked a way to address what we are, or who we are until we were much older, sometimes well beyond puberty in order to receive the care and treatment we needed. For some of us, this didn't become available until recent years, so I'm sure you can imagine how many transfolk were closeted during the 80's and 90's and well past the early 2000's and trying to get the care and support they need to be who they are and not what society wants us to pretend to be. #LGBTQ