So........ I just requested a "personal: leave of absence from work. Management SUCKS and is not helpful. I am at the end of my rope. I am in tears every day and I can no longer take another day. We shall see how this goes.
@MrsBentoBako Quite personal story to share on this subject: I used to work for a very well known dollar store in my local area as a shift manager. They skeleton crewed every single shift and I didn't get much say on how many hours I got, or who I was replacing per shift I was scheduled. I was diagnosed that same year with severe anxiety and suicidal depression and was undergoing treatment. A few months of grinding the hours out, I put in for family leave. 1/2
@MrsBentoBako My then manager chose to yell in my face about this two weeks after corporate approved my leave request, and scheduled me for that week I requested off anyway. I ended up calling my therapist in absolute bawling tears, told her what went down, and she told me flat out "Honey, if this is how you are treated, maybe finding a different job will be better for you and your mental health." 2/2
@MrsBentoBako You can take a guess on what I ended up doing: I quit for my mental health and personal well being, and have been looking for work ever since. This happened in 2016. My advice, put applications out to find a job that will work with you and give you time off for health reasons when you request it. Few min. wage jobs do today, but it's worth the hunt.
@MrsBentoBako But if you are stressed to the point that they are pushing you to this frame of mind, force them to fire you, and apply for unemployment in your state until you do find another more worthy company to work for. You deserve better, never let management tell you otherwise.
@PaganMother
I put in for leave today. I will hear from HR soon I an certain.
@MrsBentoBako All you can do in the meantime until you hear back from them is cry it out and try to find self comforts. Taking care of you is just as much a priority as your position is there, and if they can't allow you the time to handle your health, it's time to find a company that can, should and will.
@PaganMothe
You have no idea how comforting it is to know that there are others out there that are suffering the same issues.
Thank you for commiserating with me. It does help.
I have my mother in tears right now with how upset I am.
I am about to contact my doctor and let them know how my mental health is affected by this.
@MrsBentoBako That is the wisest move you can make in regards to your mental health care. I'm glad your mother is there with you and aware of your problem and I do hope that things start to look up and move forward for you. Best of luck dear.
@PaganMother
I am literally in tears right now and have been all day. I was "dressed down" yesterday for standing up for one of my employee. It's not my "job" and I need to let the managers handle this.
Continue on to today and another employee tells me to stop looking at her. I haven't looked at her for 2 fucking days. But OK.
I'm not allowed to stand up for my employees. I'm not allowed to berate my employees.
OK I'm fucking DONE!!!
Please tell me what my job title is.
Please tell me what my managers job is.
I CANNOT take them coming to me any longer. They cannot go to management, because they don't listen.
@MrsBentoBako I was a keyholder at the time. I can understand where you are coming from with this. It's belittling that they are treating you this way, but it does sound like you are in a position that puts a lot of pressure on you and a lot of responsibility for those you work with on your shoulders. I hope that you find peace and are able to break away from the company your working for, because it sounds like it's counterproductive for your mental health. *offers internet hugs.*
@MrsBentoBako
I hope you get approved! If they are Dicks about it have your HR number handy! (If you're in the US there is FMLA, and a good bit of labor and hippa laws they have to follow.)
@MrsBentoBako get your pcp too demand it. Mine did in 2019