I visited mom today. She didn't recognize me when I first got there. She's gotten to the point now where she has to be reminded who someone is, & after some prompting she remembered me. At some point I know she won't remember me at all.
@LnzyHou Yeah it kind of sucks. Even knowing we'd get to this point eventually. :(
My mother was head nurse at Alzheimer’s nursing home wing. Heartbreaking stories.
Sending you 💕
@Impious_Jade Dear Impious, yes, l know its hard. Long after my mom forgot our names, or that she had children, she was happy to see us, even when her words were garbled or gone, there was something of her still there. Courage! Hugs!
@KarenSohne Thanks. I was able to read a bit of one of her favorite childhood books to her today. Not a bunch, she was too easily distracted, but she seemed to enjoy it.
@Impious_Jade My mom always loved babies, we debated the infantilizing vs comfort, she had baby dolls and a few stuffed animals as company. There was a board book she loved, it was all sweet little baby drawings, babies crawling, eating, crying, sleeping. She loved that book!
That's so heartbreaking. I'm sorry for you both. I remember when my mom no longer recognized me. I was her youngest. I knew it would probably happen that way. I saw her most often, but near the end her face lit up when she saw her eldest, despite not having seen her in years. A little of her old self broke through the fog. 💔❤️
@Agatha Ouch and ouch. It's such a treat when they smile - I got a few smiles out of mom this afternoon.
Those are beautiful moments. ❤️
@Impious_Jade Although this journey can be extremely difficult, please remember that you're doing an awesome job supporting her, even when it's tough.
You're a source of love and comfort, and I'm sure that means the world to her, even if she can't always express it.
Please take care of yourself too. Sending you strength and compassion. 💕🤗
My MIL is getting there as well. Mr. Cosmic is crushed.
🤗 I so hope recent research finds help for this disease.
@ellesu I bet it will. I know there are folks working hard on better treatments, even a cure. It just takes time. Maybe by the time my great-niblings are born, there will be better.
@Impious_Jade I am so sorry. I just buried my mom. After 9 years
? Idk. I could check. Don't want to. There are good days and bad days. Some days she was completely with it. Other days she didn't know me. Even on the days when she didn't know me there was still a glimmer. She could sing the Marine hymn or asked for my Dad. I know it's hard. I am so sorry. A lot of what my mom did I didn't understand. As an adult and parent anc grandparent I have new perspective.
@Impious_Jade Her last words to me were "Night,night". And she struggled prolly 3 minutes to say . I had stayed with her 3 days. Didn't want her to die alone. I had to get back to my kids. Many parents strive to not go when their kids are present. I told her I wojld be back in the morning. I left at 12:30 and had a call before 1 am. As a parent of many I will not die with my kids present I understand.
@Impious_Jade She will remember. She just won't be able to say it with words. During the pandemic I had to wear a mask for a couple years and for months I was convinced my mom didn't know me. One day I showed up she said are you my driver? ( to medical appt. ) I said no I'm your daughter. She said put your hair down. I have waist length hair. I took my baseball cap off and put my hair down and she said my name. She said stop putting your hair up. I never did again.
@Impious_Jade
I can’t imagine how painful that is.