I don't know who needs to be reminded of this but:
Me expressing my own opinion of things on my own feed is not me trying to convince you of anything. It is MY opinion on MY own feed about stuff that is of interest to ME. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. I don't even know you.
If you find it interesting, awesome. If you think it's epic, even more awesome. If you don't care, then just move along. If you hate it, move along faster.
You don't have to respond to everything you see.
𝘈𝘴 𝘐'𝘷𝘦 𝘴𝘢𝘪𝘥 𝘴𝘰 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 ... 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘦𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘨𝘰 𝘣𝘺 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘪𝘳𝘦𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦, 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴𝘯'𝘵 𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘰𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘚𝘏𝘖𝘜𝘓𝘋 𝘰𝘳 𝘕𝘌𝘌𝘋 𝘛𝘖 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘪𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘸𝘢𝘺 ... 𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘧 𝘪𝘵'𝘴 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘢𝘣𝘴𝘰𝘭𝘶𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘺 𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶, 𝘪𝘴𝘯'𝘵 𝘢𝘴𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴, 𝘪𝘴𝘯'𝘵 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬, 𝘰𝘳 𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘧 𝘪𝘵'𝘴 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘢𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘯'𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘈𝘕𝘠𝘛𝘏𝘐𝘕𝘎 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘦𝘦. 𝘐𝘵'𝘴 𝘢 𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘪𝘤𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘐𝘵'𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 "𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘹 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘴, 𝘺 𝘮𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸" ... 𝘐𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘪𝘤𝘦.
Related essay if you're interested:
https://thewebrecluse.com/learn-to-mind-your-own-business/
Related CoSo thread:
@thewebrecluse I'm saving this.
@AskTheDevil Back in the G+ days you had the ability to lock your comments to everyone or only to specific groups of people that you created. There were people that used to get angry about this feature ... they wouldn't follow someone if they weren't allowed to comment and I always wondered the kind of ego and self centeredness that kind of attitude took. People are truly unwell.
@thewebrecluse My typical response is that if you speak publicly in a public forum, you should accept that other people will respond.
But when someone is publishing what is essentially their own newsletter or writing, on a forum where you can disable commenting, there should be no such expectation.
I think we've gotten this new expectation that everything is a discussion, but sometimes, someone's not asking, they're just saying.
𝘐 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘸𝘦'𝘷𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘯𝘦𝘸 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘴 𝘢 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘶𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘴, 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘰𝘯𝘦'𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘢𝘴𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺'𝘳𝘦 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘴𝘢𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨.
Exactly. Since it takes me 7-10 business days to make any sense when I write, this is essentially what I mean. If you're in a public forum which is a very specific kind of event with very specific expectations then yes. But social media is not technically a public forum, it CAN have similar aspects but not everyone uses it in the same way.
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@thewebrecluse I have to admit I miss G+ a bit too, for similar reasons.
@thewebrecluse @AskTheDevil OMG 😭. I miss G+ so much!!! Met quite a few really nice people I still talk to. One in particular who shares a love of Kpop and kdramas. I have yet to find a place to hangout at like G+. I keep telling that 1 friend to come here but she’s lollygagging. Sigh. G+ 😢
@NewYorkJellybean @AskTheDevil Most of my friends from the G+ days with the exception of @divisionbyzero stopped being interested in social media after G+ shut down. There is really nothing like it and I don't blame them. I tried to get them to come over to CoSo but they just get tired of moving from place to place. Yeah G+ really was a great social media experience. I loved it a lot.
@thewebrecluse @AskTheDevil @divisionbyzero My friend is usually on IG and I’m there maybe once a week. She’s also on FB but only once in a while. She and I were talking about G+ and DramaFever and how much we miss them. I told her about CoSo and you (Kpop, dramas and obscure stuff) hoping she’d at least come and give it a try.Sigh. I wish I had the knowledge to make a G+ like site. *cries*
@NewYorkJellybean I actually kind of like that CoSo doesn't have Kfanatics on it. I like kpop and dramas but only from a serious media standpoint not from a fanatic standpoint ... I kind of avoid places that cater to people that really have nothing outside of their love for things. It really ruins things for me. ❤️ I like to be able to enjoy things and talk to people who also enjoy OTHER stuff 🤣 and have lives 🤣
@thewebrecluse exactly why I follow you. I’ve always been into things that weren’t known to many people. I’ve been into Jdramas for decades. I’m a fan but not fanatic. I love discovering hidden gems and since the internet, there are even more out there to find and love. I know you’re into the K things but I also know you’re into so much more. You’re the kind of peep I love to follow because I learn about new music, art, entertainment, etc.
@NewYorkJellybean This is one of the most amazing comments. Thank you so much for receiving my content here on CoSo with so much positivity. I am just me on here. Being my fully authentic self is kind of boring for some people or annoying for others but hey this is me. This is my life. My interests. Stuff that moves me etc. It's nice to know some people do like it and are turned onto new things because of it. I'm so happy to be able to do that ❤️ Thank you for saying so ❤️
@thewebrecluse @NewYorkJellybean @divisionbyzero I had a similar experience. There were a few folks who I used to love following their posts there, but the only reason they felt _comfortable_ posting at all was because of specific ways it allowed them to interact or limit interaction.
@thewebrecluse @NewYorkJellybean @AskTheDevil I know many people who felt betrayed by the loss of G+ and decided never to become that invested in a social media platform again. While I miss my audience and interaction on G+, I find it hard not to write or make videos, so I continue on various platforms. I just wish I'd done a better job of getting contact info for some of the people I met through G+.
If you didn't constantly stalk me, you wouldn't have found me here so I appreciate that you do ❤️
@AskTheDevil This is why I really miss G+ because for all its faults and my complaints it didn't automatically assume that people were using it in exactly the same way and you could deeply tailor it according to how you personally wanted to use it, not based on what everyone else was doing. I have been on every social media platform and no other has had as many personalization aspects ever. I miss it a lot. That level of control and choice in how people interacted with you and your content.