Mind if I bitch for a minute?
As I got off the plane last night, returning from my brother’s memorial, I received a text from the person (uncle) who had told everyone(bragged) he was paying for everything (which was nice, but unnecessary). The text was informing me of the total cost for everything. So I wrote and mailed a check for the full amount, plus estimated hotel costs, mileage to and from, and per diem for 3 days for him and his wife. Sent him a text back with a photo of the check.
And I’m a bitch’s bitch. But I’m not passive aggressive. My sister says I’m aggressive-aggressive, which is probably accurate.
@jeffdavenport Bitch away! Sounds like that uncle is a real piece of work
And mostlly l am so sorry that your brother died
@jeffdavenport I can't believe he did that.
@poemblaze I don’t have any perspective on it - but my bucket of f’s is empty. My thinking = brag about paying = pay. Brag but then hint (in the most passive way) that you want reimbursement = 🤯
@jeffdavenport You could do a group forward of his text.
@poemblaze I did just that - to my sister and nephews.
@InUnfunky @jeffdavenport Oooo! I like that! I've been saying I'm aggressive-aggressive for years!
Active-aggressive sounds better and feels more accurate.
And easier to deal with than passive-aggressive—my worst personality type.
A mentor once described these folks as:
“A big sheepdog jumping up & licking your face while peeing on you.”
Very accurate. And none in my life.
@LnzyHou That’s a good image.
@jeffdavenport I admire your style. Seriously. Well done.
@jeffdavenport Heh. I've used the same strategy with people who behave like that. I approve.
@jeffdavenport
I would've done the same. The mere mention, a cue.
My sympathies to you on the passing of your brother.
And you wouldn’t believe the shit storm that caused! Aunts and uncles calling saying I’ve misunderstood his intentions. I don’t think I misunderstood at all. He didn’t need to pay, he claimed he wanted to. The truth is my aunt wanted to, and he probably resented it.
I may send him a couple grand at Xmas - with a note that I know things are tough.
I am normally nice, but come on - if you wanted money, ask. Or don’t volunteer to pay.
Spite is my superpower.