I'm doing CoSo (CoSoing?) on mobile, so things like pinning columns aren't happening for me. And I'm actually good with that. I like hanging out in the firehose, then checking my mentions and people I follow now and then.
I love just being able to interact and not having to worry about doing it in a way that will play The Algorithm in my favor. 'Cause...no algorithm!
I also understand some of the other new people may not really grok that yet, even when told there's no algorithm. The Algorithm doesn't just exist in the bird app. Social media has just been getting us used to "engage properly in order to be seen".
Some people don't know any other way. By the time they got on IG or Twitter that was already how it was.
So it's kind of like telling somebody, "These people's house we're going to? Do NOT say 'hello', try to shake hands, or call anybody by their name." But that's all they know for "properly" greeting someone when you visit them.
It's also on us new people to ask, "Okay, how do I greet them?" Long time CoSoNauts are offerings information.
From what I've seen so far, CoSo mostly doesn't care if you stay or not when you first get here. You are welcomed, and if you want to be part of the community, that's great!
Nobody's begging you to stay if it's not for you, though. Be suspicious of platformd that do that. They have motivations that are not about what will make you happy.
I think it's not unfair to say that our general attitude is that if this place isn't right for you, it's a lot better for all concerned for you to seek greener pastures than attempt to bend things to your will.
THAT trick NEVER works.
@mcfate That's actually what ended my first marriage. I flat out told my ex, "If I leave, this was a life lesson. If I stay, I will one day hate you for continuing to breathe." Begging someone to stay just isn't healthy...in any social setting.
@weirdfizz I wouldn't say nobody cares if you stay or not. I'd say it's more a warm welcome than a hard sell.
And there's no need to demand that CoSo convince you that this is THE place to be. When other platforms do that, it's been part of trying to convince you to be there so you can be the product sold to advertisers, and contributing to the number that attracts investors...who want you to be sold to advertisers.