@Ellomumsy Look, in that particular conversation, I de-escalated on accident. I started disassociating. I was very upset. While I was all lofty and far away, the meditation training kicked in on accident. It was amazing. Then, while I was still far away, the right words started coming out. I'm still shocked. With this person, we often both walk away with unresolved insulted feelings, this time we both felt good.

@tippitiwichet that’s amazing. I’m going to have to up my meditation game. Thanks for the tip and grateful for your happy resolution.

@Ellomumsy Our feelings are usually unresolved because we both know we want to retreat when our feelings are hurt, but we also want to be the one who decides when the conversation ends, it gets messy. If I try to end it after my feelings are hurt, without them having a chance to get their say, they feel snubbed. If they try to leave after saying I'm being irrational, they leave me feeling insulted, and feeling snubbed. If I try to bring it up later, I'm dragging up old deep seated things.

@tippitiwichet this is pretty spot on to my situation. I hate it. I avoid talking about touchy issues because of it. It is not usually me that starts these arguments, but sometimes an innocent conversation triggers something. Anyhow, human relationships are messy and I’m finding tarot is actually helping me do some inner work.

@Ellomumsy I found 78 Days Around the Tarot to be an inspiring introspective journey, I still honor insights from it to this day. I think I did it about a decade ago.