𝘓𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘢 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘤𝘩 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘴 𝘶𝘯𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘭 𝘰𝘳 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦 𝘢 𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘰𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘴𝘰. 𝘐𝘵 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘰𝘤𝘤𝘶𝘳 𝘢𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘱𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥𝘭𝘺 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘴 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘶𝘮𝘢.

There are very few things actually within your control and even some things that are can't be changed solely by one person without support from others.

Your mind, your emotional choices, your understanding and your resilience ARE within your individual control.

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Anger, depression, negativity, these emotions stem from collisions of hope and reality.

Irrational expectations placed upon events that you can't control, misdirected emotions, choosing delusion, etc all of these things aren't healthy and are mainly about refusing to accept responsibility in how you choose to handle what happens to you or how you see the world.

Once you resolve all collisions and see things for what they are, not how you wish they were, things change.

You change.

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𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘦𝘹𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘯𝘢𝘭, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘪𝘯 𝘪𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘥𝘶𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘵𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘪𝘵; 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘰𝘬𝘦 𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘮𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵. - Marcus Aurelius

When things happen that we don't like or expect, how we respond to them is ENTIRELY our own decision. To recognize if your dysregulation or victimization or centering is making a problem worse or larger than it needs to be is part of critical thinking, reason. and emotional intelligence ... not helplessness.

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𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘭 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘢𝘴 “𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥” 𝘰𝘳 “𝘣𝘢𝘥.” 𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘰 𝘰𝘧 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 “𝘣𝘢𝘥” 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘯, 𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 “𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥” 𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘴 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘣𝘭𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘥𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘦—𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘦.

𝘔𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘰𝘧 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘣𝘢𝘥 𝘣𝘦𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘮𝘴 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘵𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘭𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘢. 𝘐𝘧 𝘸𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘵𝘦𝘥 “𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥” 𝘢𝘯𝘥 “𝘣𝘢𝘥” 𝘵𝘰 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴, 𝘸𝘦’𝘥 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘯𝘰 𝘤𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘦 𝘎𝘰𝘥, 𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘢𝘴 𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘮𝘪𝘦𝘴.

- Marcus Aurelius

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𝘏𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘦𝘪 𝘪𝘴 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘑𝘢𝘱𝘢𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘮𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦’𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘢𝘯 𝘦𝘹𝘢𝘤𝘵 𝘦𝘲𝘶𝘪𝘷𝘢𝘭𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘌𝘯𝘨𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘩. 𝘗𝘳𝘰𝘣𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘣𝘦 ‘𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘧𝘭𝘦𝘤𝘵’ 𝘰𝘳 ‘𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘵’.

𝘏𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘦𝘪 𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘶𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘪𝘥𝘯’𝘵 𝘨𝘰 𝘸𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘰𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨, ‘𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳? 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘺?’

Han (反) means “change”,“to see something from a different perspective”, and Sei (省) means “to review”, “to examine yourself”.

It is accountability.

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Getting riled up psychologically and emotionally over things that are 100% out of your control serves no purpose other than running you into an early grave and allowing outside powers to have mastery over you. You become enslaved to anger and all that does is further empower the things that are oppressing you.

I wrote other day about "genin wo mitsukeru" - getting to the root of the problem / finding the root cause - being part of hansei.

Think of hansei ultimately as a kind of apology.

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#FirstCoffeeThoughts

One of the fastest blocks I ever did here on CoSo was someone who responded to one of my threads that looking at a negative situation that happened and seeing my level of fault in it - instead of blaming others - was "a kind of learned helplessness".

Let me just make something clear for those that also seem to have no sense: Blaming others is not strength, playing the victim is not strength, getting angry is not strength, and accountability is FAR from weakness.

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The original Greek practice of medicine INCLUDED PSYCHOLOGY, PHYSICAL HEALTH, and ENVIRONMENTAL FACTORS that contributed to a person's health; both the natural environment (sky, air, water) and the societal environment (people, politics, social issues).

It emphasized the causes and therapeutic importance of psychological factors, nutrition and lifestyle, independence of mind, body and spirit, and the need for harmony between individuals, society, and the natural environment.

Balance is key.

In the 80s on Friday is great (85 is the cutoff for optimal) so I'm pretty happy with how my body is responding to the new exercise schedule. An extra recovery day might help.

The weighted blanket is still working well but at 1am when I needed to roll over, the amount of movement and effort needed pulled me into a full waking state as you can see. That's not good despite falling back to sleep.

But it's the 3rd day of no morning pain while using it so ...

#sleeptracking #healthtracking #oura

If there’s something you want to forget, a binder can help. If there’s something you need to erase, they can assist. Within the pages of the books they create, secrets are concealed and the past is locked away.

An unforgettable novel of enchantment, mystery, memory, and forbidden love, The Binding is a beautiful homage to the allure and life-changing power of books - and a reminder to us all that knowledge can be its own kind of magic.

Starting this one tonight 👍🏾

The Binding

For as long as he can recall, Emmett has been drawn to books, even though they are strictly forbidden. Bookbinding is a sacred calling, Seredith informs her new apprentice, and he is a binder born. Under the old woman’s watchful eye, Emmett learns to handcraft the elegant leather-bound volumes. Within each one, they will capture something unique and extraordinary: a memory.

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#Cross couldn't have come at a better time. Aldis Hodge is amazing and, as they say, Blackety Black 🤣 Nothing against the new heartthrob and "acceptable to white folks" actor Aaron Pierre, but it's nice to see a "big old Black man" playing this role unapologetically. 👍🏾

Just a reminder that the new #Cross series with Aldis Hodge, Isaiah Mustafa, and Juanita Jennings has aried it's entire season 1 on Amazon Prime.

https://youtu.be/GOupIB773tI

#RecluseReleases

One of the biggest hindrances for me with #VRGaming is accessibility.

Due to #chronicillness and #chronicpain I cannot stand for long periods of time.

A lot of games can be played sitting and adjust for that and I do have a small stool but being able to turn and spin on it is difficult and it's not comfortable.

The #RotoVR is amazingly comfortable to sit in, the back support is amazing, and the head tracking with the rotating base actually completely removes motion sickness for me.

The #RotoVR is absolutely one of the best pieces of tech I have owned in decades. Not only is it made well and builds perfectly, it just simply works right out of the box. The head tracking just fucking works. You turn your head and you spin. I used it just now to play my all time favorite #VR game #UntilYouFall and the experience was absolutely incredible and comfortable. I could look, dodge, block enemies from any direction seamlessly with absolutely zero motion sickness or lag.

#CosoGaming

Tauri has already claimed the bottom 🤣

My #RotoVR chair has arrived! It's in more than a few pieces with very minimal build instructions but it honestly doesn't need much. The parts on the floor are basically the base, feet, wheels and motor ... everything else is seat and back. My tribemate and I have almost completed the build.

I cannot express how much I'm looking forward to trying this beautiful accessibility technology. 🎉

#CosoGaming #VRGaming

#InfinityNikki launches in December after racking up 30 million preregistrations.

The game is set to release December 5th and is already on its way to being one of the most-played games of the year.

My tribemate is so ready for this 🎉

https://youtu.be/ja4dbzntYMY

#CoSoGaming

Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon—sometimes called Bacon's Law, or the Oracle of Bacon—is an ancient parlor game in which mortal players engage in a perilous battle of trying to connect the cinematic appearances of various human celebrities to the filmography of the One True Kevin Bacon in less than six steps.

In a recent installment of the Stat Signifiant newsletter, Californian data scientist Daniel Parris conducts a comprehensive statistical analysis of Bacon's Law.

https://www.statsignificant.com/p/quantifying-the-kevin-bacon-game

Netflix has unveiled the main official trailer for the conspiracy thriller series called #TheMadness.

𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘺. 𝘋𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘱𝘪𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘺, 𝘴𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘮𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘢, 𝘤𝘶𝘭𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦 ...

The Madness is a tricky conspiracy thriller series starring the extraordinarily talented #ColmanDomingo as media pundit Muncie Daniels, who must fight for his innocence & his life after stumbling upon a murder deep in the Poconos.

https://youtu.be/m8rpXHCa8kE

#RecluseReleases