Repeating what I said earlier today:

Celebrate all the good. Embrace the light. Find strength, joy, and peace in your loved ones. Don't let any day go by without gratitude.

When Epictetus talks about how every situation has two handles, this is what he means. You can decide to grab onto anger or appreciation. You can pick up the handle of resentment or of gratitude. You can look at the obstacle or get a little closer and see the opportunity.

Goodnight CoSo ❤️

Propelled not stirred ... 🤣

https://www.amazon.com/Stainless-Propeller-Penetrate-Thoroughly-Gifts-1PCS/dp/B0D6WJDRKT

𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘰 𝘯𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘩𝘶𝘳𝘵 𝘮𝘦. 𝘕𝘰 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘮𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘶𝘨𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴. 𝘕𝘰𝘳 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘐 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘳𝘺 𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘺 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦, 𝘰𝘳 𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘩𝘪𝘮. 𝘞𝘦 𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘣𝘰𝘳𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬 𝘵𝘰𝘨𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘵, 𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘺𝘦𝘴, 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘸𝘰 𝘳𝘰𝘸𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘦𝘦𝘵𝘩, 𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳. 𝘛𝘰 𝘰𝘣𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘤𝘵 𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘪𝘴 𝘶𝘯𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘢𝘭. 𝘛𝘰 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘵 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘰𝘯𝘦, 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘰𝘯 𝘩𝘪𝘮: 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘶𝘯𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘢𝘭. - Marcus Aurelius

𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘶𝘱 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧: 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘐 𝘥𝘦𝘢𝘭 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘰𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘮𝘦𝘥𝘥𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘶𝘯𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘯𝘵, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘵, 𝘫𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘭𝘺. 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘤𝘢𝘯'𝘵 𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘭. 𝘉𝘶𝘵 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘺 𝘰𝘧 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘶𝘨𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘭, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘰𝘨𝘯𝘪𝘻𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘳 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘢 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘺 𝘰𝘸𝘯 - 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘣𝘭𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘣𝘪𝘳𝘵𝘩, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘥, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦.

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Celebrate all the good. Embrace the light. Find strength, joy, and peace in your loved ones. Don't let any day go by without gratitude.

When Epictetus talks about how every situation has two handles, this is what he means. You can decide to grab onto anger or appreciation. You can pick up the handle of resentment or of gratitude. You can look at the obstacle or get a little closer and see the opportunity.

"It is not that we have a short space of time, but that we waste much of it." - Seneca

Time for some #porchtime with @IronButterfly. She works, I write and enjoy my favorite #cigars, and we both have hot tea in our stay warm mugs, enjoy the fresh air, quiet, and sunshine. ☀️ It's a beautiful day today.

#LightShop is a new #KDrama coming to Disney+ from the geniuses behind one of the coolest KDramas ever, #Moving (think the Heroes tv series just Korean).

𝘈 𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘳𝘶𝘯𝘴 𝘢 𝘴𝘮𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘱 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘪𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘲𝘶𝘦. 𝘏𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘷𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘺 𝘥𝘦𝘢𝘥 𝘴𝘱𝘪𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘴, 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘥𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘩, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘴. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘨𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘱 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘩𝘰𝘳𝘳𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘵.

https://youtu.be/wFATeqKxa1Q

#RecluseReleases

It's gonna be one of those epic and relaxing #catsupervisor days ❤️ It will be hard to get any #writing done when I will want to keep petting these sleeping beauties. Ohhh the restraint!

#CatsofCoSo

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Happy Pocky Day!

Every year on Nov. 11, Japan celebrates one of its favorite snacks — #Pocky, a crunchy biscuit stick dipped in chocolate. What began as a marketing stunt by Ezaki Glico — one of the world's top candy giants — has now transformed into a nationwide sugar rush that celebrates all things Pocky.

Menace from the Deep is a the kind of roguelike #deckbuilder that ticks a lot of my boxes.

What makes this one especially epic is the artstyle (the artbook that comes with the game is astounding and brilliant) and the setting.

It draws influence from #Lovecraft and the #Cthulhu mythos and is set against the backdrop of 1920s USA, the narrative revolves around a clandestine occult society.

Enjoying this one quite a bit!

#CoSoGaming

It allows for awareness of whether YOU are part of the problem because of your unmanaged, undiagnosed, or unrecognized mental dysregulation.

If you are someone who genuinely cares about other people, then this idea shouldn't be foreign to you.

If you are someone who is self-centered and self-absorbed you will push back and feel it's not your responsibility to do anything for others and that it's solely on them to protect themselves FROM YOU.

https://thewebrecluse.blog/yeah-you-could-potentially-be-the-drama/

𝘚𝘦𝘭𝘧𝘪𝘴𝘩𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘱𝘶𝘵𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘧𝘪𝘳𝘴𝘵 𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘌𝘟𝘗𝘌𝘕𝘚𝘌 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘦𝘭𝘴𝘦. 𝘚𝘦𝘭𝘧𝘕𝘌𝘚𝘚 𝘪𝘴 𝘱𝘶𝘵𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘧𝘪𝘳𝘴𝘵 𝘴𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘣𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘍𝘖𝘙 𝘖𝘛𝘏𝘌𝘙𝘚. 𝘚𝘦𝘭𝘧𝘕𝘌𝘚𝘚 𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰 𝘪𝘯 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘪𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘭𝘥 𝘢𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 … 𝘪𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩𝘺 𝘢𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘦 𝘴𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘴𝘶𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘴𝘶𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘐𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘩𝘶𝘳𝘵 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘢𝘪𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘯𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮. 𝘚𝘦𝘭𝘧𝘕𝘌𝘚𝘚 𝘪𝘴 𝘜𝘕𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧𝘪𝘴𝘩.

SelfNESS is self-policing in a community.

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𝙎𝙤𝙘𝙞𝙖𝙡 𝙢𝙚𝙙𝙞𝙖 𝙖𝙡𝙜𝙤𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙢𝙨, 𝙖𝙢𝙤𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨, 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙨𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙞𝙛𝙞𝙘𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙙𝙚𝙨𝙞𝙜𝙣𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙢𝙖𝙭𝙞𝙢𝙞𝙯𝙚, 𝙚𝙣𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙬𝙚𝙖𝙥𝙤𝙣𝙞𝙯𝙚 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚'𝙨 𝙪𝙣𝙘𝙝𝙚𝙘𝙠𝙚𝙙 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙪𝙣𝙢𝙖𝙣𝙖𝙜𝙚𝙙 𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙖𝙡 𝙞𝙡𝙡𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨, 𝙢𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙩 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙨𝙚.

Self-policing, in this context, is necessary for each and every person. It's crucial for people to be independently responsible for recognizing their own mental health and how it may affect those around them. There has to be a level of self-awareness and selfNESS - which I have explained and defined countless times here.

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Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress ... just as trauma is simply 𝙖𝙣𝙮𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙢𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙖𝙗𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙩𝙤 𝙘𝙤𝙥𝙚, mental illness is 𝙖𝙣𝙮 𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙖𝙡, 𝙗𝙚𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙞𝙤𝙧𝙖𝙡, 𝙤𝙧 𝙚𝙢𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙤𝙧𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙢𝙥𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙖𝙗𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙩𝙤 𝙧𝙚𝙜𝙪𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜, 𝙗𝙚𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙞𝙤𝙧, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙢𝙤𝙤𝙙.

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So remember:

Hansei and Kaizen

Han (反) means “change”, “to turn something over”, “to see something from a different perspective”, and Sei (省) means “to review”, “to examine yourself”. Kaizen (改善) is "improvement" or "change for the better" which is the inevitable outcome of properly done hansei.

Genin wo mitsukeru = getting to the root of the problem

Saihatsu Boshi = prevention of reoccurrence

SelfNESS is about being your best self so that you can be your best for others.

Know who you are.
Know your wounds.

Make sure you are not hurting or hindering others because of your own unresolved issues.

genin wo mitsukeru = discovering the root cause

Instead of spending so much time looking out at the world, at strangers, at everyone else, you should be spending your energy looking at yourself and resolving your own issues that are perhaps tainting how you see everyone else in the world.

The call is almost always coming from inside the house.

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In #MediaTherapy the focus is on what people project into what they experience, not what they take out of it. This also happens in every day life; people see things through the lens of their own bias, damage, self-disgust, unresolved trauma etc and it taints what they see and how they react to it.

If you don't know yourself well, you won't ever be able to know anyone else. If you cannot see yourself clearly, you won't ever be able to see anyone else clearly.

Self care also helps others.

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𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘷𝘦, 𝘣𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘰𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘩 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘵𝘶𝘱𝘪𝘥. - Epictetus

Instead of worrying about what other people think, it is important to be honest with yourself if you plan to make any kind of forward progress. It's equally important if you want to not get in the way of other people's forward progress, much like what is happening in the world today.

There's a lot of people incapable of looking INWARD so instead they blame OUTWARD.

Self hatred is never limited to the self.

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The processes of hansei, kaizen, saihatsu boshi, and taisaku are helpful in business but even MORE useful when it comes to personal development and well being not just on an individual level, but also on a societal level.

All of these processes involve honesty, self-reflection, accountability, and solutions over blame. They focus on DOING things and making CHANGE as opposed to blaming and wasting time arguing about who is at fault. They focus on the present and future, not the past.

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