Someone else liking something doesn't automatically mean it's good.
Someone else disliking something doesn't automatically mean it's bad.
Trusting someone else's opinion over your own is not an ideal way of making decisions on things that are about personal preferences.
Letting someone else make or determine decisions about what you should and shouldn't like is an indication of a lack of sense of self.
Do you ... not what someone else tells you is you.
On a related note ...
Someone else liking something shouldn't automatically trigger you just because you dislike it.
Someone else disliking something shouldn't automatically trigger you just because you like it.
Your likes and dislikes are your business. Your subjective opinions are not objective truths.
Mind your own business.
Don't yuck people's yum.
If other people's opinions on media trigger you into rage and anger, you need peace and therapy and much less media engagement.
Some of the book reviewers I like most on YouTube are people I have significantly different taste from.
But, while they're open about their like or dislike of a book, they are also good about discussing it more generally, and giving reasons they disliked (or liked) it. That gives me the information I need to decide whether I'm likely to enjoy it.
And they don't deride people who have different taste. We need more of that in discussions of media in general.
@tyghebright I guess I tend to not care about the reasons why someone liked or disliked something because I don't care if they liked or disliked it. They are them and I assume they like or dislike things for reasons that are specific to them. Unless I genuinely LIKE that person and want to get to know them ... I take little interest. Media discussions, much like politics and spiritual ones, are a great way to get to know someone ... otherwise it's just back and forth wastes of time to me.
In this context, I only care because it tells me more about the book (or movie, or game)... If they disliked it because there was too much magical realism, for example, then I will probably enjoy it.
@tyghebright Ahh so you kind of use the opinions as a gauge ... I can understand how that works. Similar to I guess people who will gravitate towards things that people hate on ... or people who will hate on things simply because other people liked them etc ...
I'm not so much interested in whether they liked it or not, as in what they can tell me about the mood, tone, and style without giving too much away about the content.
@tyghebright I can understand that.
I guess that stuff doesn't really speak to me in the same way because mood and tone and style are also subjective.
There's a lot of media that I find emotionally draining that other people binge without thinking about it. The tone for me is more devastating whereas for someone cut off emotionally it's fine and enjoyable etc.
We're all very different so I think it's key to make your own decisions on things especially in matters of individual taste.
@tyghebright Especially things like food ... like ... someone telling me I might like something especially someone who doesn't know me, know my body, my dietary needs or restrictions, sensitivities ... just makes no sense. It would be so general and based on a lot of assumptions which are mainly personal and subjective and nothing to do with me.
I like the discovery process. That's my favorite part of learning about me. ❤️ Discovering things good and bad and the surprises that come with it.
@tyghebright Books are rougher for me. With aphantasia books, to me are ... black holes. What I get out of them is very different from what normal readers get so their opinions don't matter much to me and I can't benefit from them.
@tyghebright If the person is a stranger ... their perceptions of media are just that ... perceptions from their own mind and experiences which almost 100% of the time are things very far from my experiences and I can't begin to understand or relate to them so their opinion becomes kind of meaningless ... like random words spray painted on a wall I'm driving by. I have to be interested in the PERSON to be interested in their opinions because it tells me a lot about THEM.