Someone else liking something doesn't automatically mean it's good.
Someone else disliking something doesn't automatically mean it's bad.
Trusting someone else's opinion over your own is not an ideal way of making decisions on things that are about personal preferences.
Letting someone else make or determine decisions about what you should and shouldn't like is an indication of a lack of sense of self.
Do you ... not what someone else tells you is you.
On a related note ...
Someone else liking something shouldn't automatically trigger you just because you dislike it.
Someone else disliking something shouldn't automatically trigger you just because you like it.
Your likes and dislikes are your business. Your subjective opinions are not objective truths.
Mind your own business.
Don't yuck people's yum.
If other people's opinions on media trigger you into rage and anger, you need peace and therapy and much less media engagement.
Reviews or opinions of media are based solely on the people who are giving them and their focus, life experience, bias, and mental and emotional proclivities.
Those things have absolutely NOTHING to do with who you are or what you like or why ... so listening to them really is pointless unless you just REALLY like that person or something.
Do you.
Make your own decisions.
Who cares what other people think about something? You're not them. You're you.
Aren't you?
I've had people say to me:
"Well I don't know what I like ..."
That's a terrifying statement to make. My first response to that is usually that you need to spend MUCH LESS TIME listening to other people and figure out who YOU ARE.
Stop listening to the opinions of others and you might be surprised to find that you probably like more than you think you do without the influence of neurotic, opinionated strangers.
Yes, that includes mine.
I'm me. You're you.
DO YOU.
𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘧𝘦𝘸 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘐 𝘥𝘰 𝘨𝘦𝘯𝘶𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘭𝘺 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦. 𝘔𝘺 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘦𝘹𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘮𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘣𝘪𝘻𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘵 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦𝘴 𝘢 𝘭𝘰𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘮𝘦 𝘰𝘯 𝘢 𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘬𝘴 𝘌𝘝𝘌𝘙𝘠 𝘣𝘰𝘹. 𝘐 𝘋𝘌𝘌𝘗𝘓𝘠 𝘈𝘗𝘗𝘙𝘌𝘊𝘐𝘈𝘛𝘌 𝘢 𝘵𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘵𝘶𝘧𝘧 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘢 𝘭𝘰𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘴 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦, 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘴 𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘱𝘶𝘭𝘴𝘦 𝘮𝘦. 𝘍𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘐 𝘥𝘰𝘯'𝘵 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘴 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘢𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘢𝘴 𝘦𝘯𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘢𝘴 𝘱𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘢𝘴 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘢𝘣𝘴𝘰𝘭𝘶𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘺 𝘓𝘖𝘝𝘌 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘦. - Me
@thewebrecluse lnteresting viewpoint! These insights are why l find reading your posts so intriguing. Thank you!
@thewebrecluse yes, l'm me!
Thanks for noticing!
@KarenSohne 👍🏾 ❤️ 👍🏾 I like people who are THEMSELVES ❤️ I prefer that ❤️ Be your epic self ❤️
@thewebrecluse Actually l'm not much of an epic, more of a random stack of papers with a random haiku scribbled in there, but yes! Let's each ( and all) be our wonderful random selves!
@KarenSohne epic, in the way I use it, means something or someone that I elevate above mundane ... You are absolutely epic in my opinion for whatever that is worth ❤️
@thewebrecluse Your opinion is worth a lot, because l know it is based on your wide and deep understanding and curiosity. My thanks
@KarenSohne ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Some of the book reviewers I like most on YouTube are people I have significantly different taste from.
But, while they're open about their like or dislike of a book, they are also good about discussing it more generally, and giving reasons they disliked (or liked) it. That gives me the information I need to decide whether I'm likely to enjoy it.
And they don't deride people who have different taste. We need more of that in discussions of media in general.
@tyghebright I guess I tend to not care about the reasons why someone liked or disliked something because I don't care if they liked or disliked it. They are them and I assume they like or dislike things for reasons that are specific to them. Unless I genuinely LIKE that person and want to get to know them ... I take little interest. Media discussions, much like politics and spiritual ones, are a great way to get to know someone ... otherwise it's just back and forth wastes of time to me.
@tyghebright If the person is a stranger ... their perceptions of media are just that ... perceptions from their own mind and experiences which almost 100% of the time are things very far from my experiences and I can't begin to understand or relate to them so their opinion becomes kind of meaningless ... like random words spray painted on a wall I'm driving by. I have to be interested in the PERSON to be interested in their opinions because it tells me a lot about THEM.
In this context, I only care because it tells me more about the book (or movie, or game)... If they disliked it because there was too much magical realism, for example, then I will probably enjoy it.
@tyghebright Ahh so you kind of use the opinions as a gauge ... I can understand how that works. Similar to I guess people who will gravitate towards things that people hate on ... or people who will hate on things simply because other people liked them etc ...
I'm not so much interested in whether they liked it or not, as in what they can tell me about the mood, tone, and style without giving too much away about the content.
@tyghebright I can understand that.
I guess that stuff doesn't really speak to me in the same way because mood and tone and style are also subjective.
There's a lot of media that I find emotionally draining that other people binge without thinking about it. The tone for me is more devastating whereas for someone cut off emotionally it's fine and enjoyable etc.
We're all very different so I think it's key to make your own decisions on things especially in matters of individual taste.
@tyghebright Especially things like food ... like ... someone telling me I might like something especially someone who doesn't know me, know my body, my dietary needs or restrictions, sensitivities ... just makes no sense. It would be so general and based on a lot of assumptions which are mainly personal and subjective and nothing to do with me.
I like the discovery process. That's my favorite part of learning about me. ❤️ Discovering things good and bad and the surprises that come with it.
@tyghebright Books are rougher for me. With aphantasia books, to me are ... black holes. What I get out of them is very different from what normal readers get so their opinions don't matter much to me and I can't benefit from them.
I like a lot of stuff ... for my own reasons. Most people don't like the stuff I like for their own reasons.
Just because I like something or think it's epic or think it's worth your time, doesn't mean it is or that you will agree.
My opinion is just that ... AN OPINION ... from a person you don't know well at all or from a stranger.
If you trust my opinions based on my knowledge of media and my background in media that's a fine start but it's no guarantee of anything.
We are different.