I love Gillian Anderson and I know she went through something beyond Hell in her early career ... but I hate listening to her hate on XFiles and on herself in that role so much.
I understand WHY she does it and I understand what it means for her and why she kind of has to hate it and why she can't deeply appreciate it ... especially when it's been absolutely awful for her ... beyond awful from minute one.
I get tired of how much she hates it and how much she rags on it as if it has no value.
I tend to dislike results focused people. I don't get along with people who have a rigid viewpoint of what it means to succeed and a zero value outlook on how they came to be.
I am performance minded so I focus on everything that I did to get where I am. I see the PROCESS of all that as a part of several important steps of development. Life is a journey and success or failure is a result of many factors, some that are within our control and some that are not.
@thewebrecluse People who claim to be "results oriented" tend to actually be goal-oriented, as opposed to mission-oriented.
Short term, easily visible "results" (that matter to the person), are seen as ongoing success, often at the expense of the overall mission.
Being mission-oriented means that you focus on the mission, not on satisfying short-term goals. Whatever gets you there gets you there.
@AskTheDevil @thewebrecluse This is what knitting did for me. And art. It's all about wanting a thing. There's a huge desire to rush so you have it, but if you do so, you won't be happy with the results. You have to relax. to fall into it, to learn to enjoy the process. It has indeed spread into other areas of my life, to great benefit.