I legitimately hate a lot of people, including my own parents, for their support of this alt-right fascist authoritarian bullshit, and I have NO shame for that. Anyone who says you shouldn't hate someone who's actively doing all they can to destroy your lives and future is gaslighting you. Why shouldn't we hate people who do all they can to be our enemies? Fuck "respond with kindness." That's abusive talk...
@theunabeefer I cut half of my family off from my life for being awful transphobes.
It's not my job to fix them. They can fix themselves and earn trust again, or they can fuck off.
Hate is a strong word for me, though - it implies active effort. I have no time for awful people. If they want to grow up and fix themselves, that's great, if not? I have Stardew Valley to play.
@mouses I still play Animal Crossing... I get you. I guess hate might be too active of a word. After all, I do still love my parents.... I just don't respect them. And I also hate them.... The two night not be mutually exclusive at this point.
@theunabeefer Totally get it. I’m more into “strategic kindness” — i.e., if a specific individual is more likely to get their head out of their ass if you hit them more gently with the truth-stick, then that’s what I’ll do.
The “we just have to be nice to all of them” stuff is gaslighty, abusive nonsense, though, especially online. They’re just going to waste your time and emotional energy.
@sanau I tried for years, so hard, to reason with my mother... Eventually, I realized that she's unreasonable, and that was that.
If they actively refuse to see reason or even acknowledge fact, there's no sense...
@theunabeefer Yep, there’s no reasoning with some people. Some are salvageable, others not so much.
@theunabeefer I feel like hate implies you have some driving need to connect or engage….I believe the opposite of love is indifference.
I don’t hate ppl formerly in my life for their beliefs. I am indifferent to their existence and they add no value…and I will spend my time dismantling the machine they have bonded with
TLDR?
I recommend moving from hate to indifference…😜
@Thumprhare I would love for my parents to realize they are in a cult, and to actively deintegrate... I hope to everything that they figure it out and reconnect. I love my parents.
I just hate them as they are currently... I want their generation to die off fast for the betterment of mankind.
@theunabeefer screw the bullies