I’m tired of explaining my motives to people who don’t “get” altruism. When pressed by a friend on whether I’d bought a ticket for a car raffle as we had last year, I said, “no, all my money is focused on helping #Ukraine.” “Why?”, he asked. “Do you have family there?”. “No”, I said, to his bafflement. Yesterday, I told the guy taking my blood donation that I was a 3rd generation donor. He asked, “Did someone in your family need blood?” “No”, I explained “Nobody.” Is everyone that self serving?
@cassandra17lina i can understand the exhaustion of explaining:)
altho, i don't read those q's as not 'getting' altruism. in the situations you describe, i think people are looking for why you care. & that can be powerful to share w/ people b/c it helps them w/ their own empathy & understanding. or they're trying to form a connection or reinforce connections to you & what motivates/inspires you.
ofc, it's a form of emotional labour & you're under no obligation to give it.
& yay you :)
@singlemaltgirl thanks for your thought provoking response. Plenty there to ponder, and I appreciate the perspective.
