@NorCalCherylLyn I think they just like being a bully like Trump is. When the other family pre-emptively says nope then they play all shocked and victimized.
@TheNewsOwl thatโs what Iโm seeing on SM. A lot of whining that people they tormented all of the past 8yrs donโt want to be with them. I really donโt get their confusion!
It's toxic codependency. You can't gloat unless you have someone to gloat over; you can't feel superior unless there's someone you can make feel inferior. If you deny them that, they feel shut out of their birthright.
@DavidSalo This right here! 100%
@DavidSalo @TheNewsOwl I think youโre right! Iโm even happier for those that arenโt playing with them anymore now.
@DavidSalo @NorCalCherylLyn @TheNewsOwl
Not everyone is exactly the same. Not everyone does things for the same reasons, and not everyone is unreachable.
Kick the unreachable, but don't cut every tree limb in sight because some are falling.
Never allow politicians to interfere with family.
Accept those who think differently within your family.
I do.
@AkomoCombine I do not allow politicians to interfere however difference in values hell yes. I do not care for the authoritarian mindset and do not agree whatsoever with thier values.
@AkomoCombine @TheNewsOwl Never claim to love someone and vote for someone who wants to hurt them.
This isnโt minor differences in fiscal policy.
Vote for hate. Get hate. Simple.
@TheNewsOwl I just got finished with a difficult conversation with a loved one who voted for Trump last time, still hangs out with their Republican friends, and who still isn't convinced that we're in trouble and believes a lot of what the MAGA people are saying (i.e. that they are reviled for being white and male, when they're a nice person who doesn't do things to deserve that).
If I cut them off, only the MAGATs would be there to talk to them.
@TheNewsOwl The thing is, this is a person I love. I didn't stop loving them because they're difficult.
Having said that, there are people who have been maintaining relationships with people who _don't_ love them back, and for whom "love" is more about obligation and abuse than anything else.
Pick your battles, and don't make cuts where someone might heal.
@AskTheDevil I have always been open and if itvwas someone who hadn't already hurt me then yes I would keep that relationship. However, some people are just toxic in thier behaviors. My mother for example is someone that is just a toxic person all around to me. On top of it all her values align with Trump.
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Well, _I_ like you, and I am happy having connections to you and be still talking to you!
They're losing out.
@TheNewsOwl they can all stew in their hate....to hell with them
@TheNewsOwl Iโm shocked that they want their โLibtardโ relatives anywhere near them.