Much sadness here today. And a lot of gratitude that hubby made the trip home a few weeks ago.
My 90yo MIL is in Intensive Care after a series of strokes. She’s ready…we’re not. Dad won’t last long after Mom as he has stated clearly he’s waiting for her to go first. 🥺
We know they have to go but damn it’s hard when it’s happening. Hubby is pretty stoic and at peace because they said goodbye when he was there.
Found this photo on FB! Wish I had one of Mom handy.
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We went thru this 2 weeks ago.
Someone sent a card this week.
So fine a person
So good a soul
A life so well lived. 💙
Wishing your family comfort. 🫂
@KazzyH Ty, wishing the same for your family.
((Hugs)) for your aching hearts as you prepare for these losses 💜💜
@Minholkin Ty Min. Adulting stinks sometimes…
@NorCalCherylLyn I'm sorry. That is difficult to go through. Glad they are at peace with it and wish you all strength, comfort, and support through this.
@AnnetteTRemain thanks so much…
I’m sorry to dump it on you guys here on CoSo. Just had to put it somewhere and here is the only safe space to do that. ❤️🩹
@NorCalCherylLyn not dumping. Never dumping. 💜💜💜💜
@NorCalCherylLyn So hard to let them go
@KarenSohne really is. Trying to focus on the wonderful life they’ve lived together…70+ years is amazing! And that they are truly ready to go. They got DNR bracelet a few months ago. 😞
@NorCalCherylLyn it is an aching, wrenching act of love to let them go, to tell them it's ok to leave
@KarenSohne it is hard but it’s something that they need I think.
@NorCalCherylLyn l do think that some want that permission, sometimes it's a spoken permission, or sometimes it's the moment the family goes home for a meal or a rest
We need to look at what this person wanted for themselves at the end of their lives. Did they want ICU, beeping, blinking monitors, IV drips? Or would they want a quiet place, with just their loved ones? Maybe favourite music or a beloved pet? I know what l want, when l get to where the end is in sight.
@KarenSohne when my Stepdad passed we’d had them remove supportive care and the room was quiet. It was weird that he died in the 60mins I’d gone for a shower.
@NorCalCherylLyn l was a nurse, there were many times it happened like that. As if the dying loved one couldn't bear to say goodbye either, and they slipped away in the time it took the family to go to the coffee shop in the lobby, or in your case, leave the bedside for a quick shower. Hugs to you and all your loved ones going through this difficult time
( pass those hugs around! )
@KarenSohne I will share them…
I'm so very, very sorry! Sending you, your husband and family much love, light and strength! 🫂💔 🙏
@Spagesgallo1 thank you…it’s never easy.
Of course! That's the most challenging part of this journey in life, having to say goodbye! May your mother in law have a peaceful transition and may you and your husband and family find some comfort in the memories that all of you shared! 🙏💛✨️
@NorCalCherylLyn Aww. I'm sorry. I wish I had words that could help. ❤️
@tippitiwichet those words do help… 🥹
@NorCalCherylLyn 🫂💜🫂