Divorce sucks....that's it, that's the toot 😞
@MarvelousMadi13 Totally agree. Ours was amicable. I wish we could go back to what was, but right now I can't even support myself.
@poemblaze ours has not been amicable unfortunately. I made a few mistakes regarding my transition and how I went about it. I'm hoping at some point we can be amicable
@MarvelousMadi13 @poemblaze
I'm so sorry you're going thru this. Whether amicable or not so kind, it's a devastating thing (for most anyway).😞
While my divorce was amicable, it was anything but painless for me and almost 20 yrs later it still hurts.
*hugs*
@see_the_sus @poemblaze thanks, hopefully the pain gets a little better in time
I liken divorce to the death of a loved one. Not only can it cause rifts between people but the emotions come in waves throughout life.
I am getting less, how to say, using him in a sentence? Like, for years when I would talk about past stuff where he was involved, I would say, "My ex and I." But I began to realize that I don't have to include him in the story. I can just tell people, "I moved to NY after college," instead of "He and I moved..."
@see_the_sus @poemblaze we have 3 young kids which makes things much more difficult
@see_the_sus @poemblaze my kids are all 9 and younger. My oldest son far has been accepting which has been nice. Everyone has told me having kids younger is generally better with transition
@MarvelousMadi13 @poemblaze
😞 yeah, sadly that can add to the pain.
I used to have a friend in Denver whose father transitioned to female while still married and she, my friend, was in her 20s. Her parents divorced soon after.
We kept in touch off and on after I moved away from CO & I remember it took her a number of years to fully understand and accept the impact both events had had on her life, but eventually the three of them were able to repair their relationships.