I don't have the most uh... comfortable relationship with my parents. There's a lot of history there.
Yesterday I mentioned in a family chat that I'd qualified for mortgage pre-approval & am looking to buy a house, woo!
Sibling already gave their congrats. Parents didn't say a word.
Not a congratulations, or "cool!", or advice, or encouragement, or even criticism - they didn't respond *at all*.
& I know they were on the chat bc I'd just wrapped up a convo about my mom's health.
I excuse it away as dad being preoccupied w/mom's health (she has Parkinson's & he's her primary caregiver), but this isn't really a surprise. Usually they'd tell me all about how I'll fail. I'm almost grateful neither of them has the energy or focus to tear me down for once.
What isn't surprising is the lack of support. I learned years ago that I just wouldn't have it from them, regardless.