I miss having friends. Like friends who I can count on being there for me whether it's a text, phone call, video chat, letter or literally anythin else. I'm always the one who asks if they're ok or need a shoulder to cry on. When will it be my turn? I understand that it's a two-way streak maybe, I should be better at reaching out but the truth is I'm tired. Tired of chasing and trying to add effort when I don't get it in return 😒
@EllyOnTheGo I got you! If you ever need someone to talk to, I’ll be there for you. 💕
@Valkyrie_D thank you 💜
@EllyOnTheGo That last sentence might be *exactly* how they're feeling too. So maybe do the reaching out.
Maybe something like
"Hey! Sorry I haven't been in touch lately.
I should be better at reaching out but the truth is I'm tired. I bet you feel like that too, sometimes. Anyway, how are you?"
@stueytheround I have, sometimes I won't even get a message back even though I know they're on social media. Like I get it, people have things going on, the world definitely doesn't revolve around me. It's just disheartening
@EllyOnTheGo Yes. It is.
@EllyOnTheGo Hi. How are you feeling today?
@Lavransdattar Today was a good day 😌 thank you!
@EllyOnTheGo I feel the same. We can have each other.
@SaltyVeruca Yes please! My DMs are always open
@LnzyHou As I get older I'm now realizing that, quality over quantity. Same goes to you!
@LnzyHou @EllyOnTheGo I'll give that an Amen.
@LnzyHou Lol I like this 👌🏻
@LnzyHou @EllyOnTheGo My, I missed this conversation! (My internet was out and I’m typing this as I sit in my car! ) yes, you are valued and I’m here for you if you need to vent. ((💜)) or just be.
Thanks A 🦩
@EllyOnTheGo I feel the same way, I feel like I am ALWAYS the one reaching out. I am a homebody and seasonal affective for sure but I always tell them I DO appreciate the invites and occasionally do the things if something is going on I can show up but I'm tired of it too and lately have been pondering if it is just different when you are in your 50's , even lung cancer didn't really do it! One told me 4 times she was taking me to my favorite Thai place ghosted me, I was her maid of honor FFS
Bye bye maid of honor. 🌺
@Tattoomonkey29 WTF!? I'm so sorry this happened to you 😢
@EllyOnTheGo 💔 Sad part is that I'm kind of over it , "luckily" I had brain cancer 29 years ago and know how totally freaked out and weird people can get so it wasn't a total surprise!
@Tattoomonkey29 I have complex medical issues as well but never thought that would possibly deter someone from friendship. Maybe we're too special for them 😇
@EllyOnTheGo If you're in Boston or one of the other parkrun locations, I can recommend parkrun as a way to make some enduring friendships. In a few months I made friendships that have become fulsome and rewarding, and the circle keeps growing. One of my friends has had MS for 30 years and has barely missed an opportunity to walk, run, or hobble around with her walker depending on her state of health. Feel free to DM me for more info.
@peterquirk I'm close to Boston but not close enough just for a walk around the park. I'm in RI, are there's places like this where I am too?
@EllyOnTheGo I'm afraid there's nothing in RI yet. If you can round up half-a-dozen friends there are parkrun ambassadors who can help you start one. The first challenge is to find a public space where you can do this without having to go through a permitting process every week. Some municipalities hate sharing their spaces with people from other towns. A cooperative old estate or farm is sometimes a good alternative.
https://www.parkrun.com/
@EllyOnTheGo Here's an interesting testimonial.
https://youtu.be/81GqzCHIW84?si=wXI-v93AKU4m_AVj
/nosanitize
@peterquirk I appreciate the info, thank you!
@EllyOnTheGo I have one friend from high school that I have occasional contact with. That's it. My friends are all here, none of which I've met in person.
@Tacitus_Kilgore I have one good friend I met when I use to work retail. She lives in Chicago and I'm in RI
Thank you all for the messages and comments. I'm so lucky to be a part of this beautiful community 💗