I’m never here. I should be, but I sort of forget. But time and time again you’ve shown to be the most supportive group I’ve found on the internet.
There’s just something I want to get off my chest.
My wife and I were expecting our first baby a few days ago. She miscarried very early on. All that pain came sweeping back. Oh how I long to hold that child in my arms.
Some part of me is still terrified it was my fault somehow- even if I just missed a warning somewhere. Some part of me worries that she was too scared to go through with it, and too scared to tell me that.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
But do not blame yourself for an early miscarriage. There are so many things that have to go right to have a successful pregnancy, 20% of people who know they're pregnant miscarry, and 80% of fertilized eggs never make it.
Medical women often wait for after 12 weeks before revealing a pregnancy, knowing that before that, there is such a high chance some randomness will end the pregnancy.