What happens first?
You give up on love, or you give up on yourself?
@EdgeOErin You love yourself first, deploy introspection, improve, grow. Then explore the pursuits in life that bring you joy and you just might find someone there doing the same thing, good luck!
@MidnightRider Personally, fresh air and exercise definitely helps with self-esteem. There are times I feel good about myself, times I don't. That said, I've given up on love in my life.
@EdgeOErin I get that, I did too. Then I improbably found someone who's a sweet human, a real friend, start there first. And I'm old, I was out in Billy Mumy's cornfield for decades and felt the same way you do now. All you can do is tilt the odds, that sort of applies to all life pursuits.
@MidnightRider I hear that. It's true. I'm truly happy you found someone. That's great :) I hope things continue to go well [heart emoji]
@EdgeOErin Me too because she likes me even though I'm an idiot! 😂 I'm just humble as an idiot and I make her laugh.
@EdgeOErin Change your self talk too, that's super important. You can't tell yourself you're giving up, that gives off some kind of vibration and scent, like how a dog can smell fear.
@MidnightRider I suppose. I've tried. Too many disappointments and bad stuff. On the upside, I feed the birds and do all I can to protect the environment.
@EdgeOErin You're holding onto some "stinkin thinkin" I've been there, that term was told to me. Step back Danielson, you still have more in the tank that feeding birds.
@EdgeOErin You like to Kayak and you're good at landscaping too? Those are two excellent points of contact! You have to "run that" sir.
@MidnightRider Thanks a lot. After so many years, I don't think it is "meant to be," but I deeply appreciate your advice and encouragement. They say "it" happens when you least expect it, and I'm definitely in that zone ;)
@EdgeOErin You have to consciencely work on dropping the "not meant to be", that's your first mission. It's not going to happen overnight but trust me you need to eradicate that! You need to get up tomorrow, look in the mirror and say " dammit! it happened again last night". What? Oh I got better looking! 😂 😎 Grab the pom poms, cheer for you. Besides, helping someone with landscaping is a great way to gain friendship, that has to come first.
@EdgeOErin Be the person you would like to find, somehow the unknown laws of attraction respond to that more often than you think. And there's no downside to self improvement. It hurts me to go to the gym but I do anyway. When you feel better about yourself you carry yourself differently.