AMA about trans life from an out of the closet transmasc person! Fire away! Gonna keep this going until the 19th. #AMA #TransAwarenessWeek
@PaganMother
My 16 year old (she/they) born female has been feeling out their gender identity. As a cis mom in my early 50s, I may not understand everything, but I support that she understands how she feels. When she asked for a binder, I bought them two. When she asked for a tux instead of gown, no hesitation. She seems to be more gender fluid than trans, but not sure. Unfortunately, they got my busty genes, so sometimes she likes them, other times they annoy her (continued)
@PaganMother
(Sorry so long) What I do understand because I experienced it growing up: I was "a tomboy". Often carrying myself, acting, dressing and talking in a stereotypical male expression. I was teased for it but always just thought it was because I was punk, poor and had to fight to be safe n the street. Now I see it may have been more but I identify as a woman now. It was just easier. My questions: how do you advise I best support my kid to enable their journey find their true self?
@PaganMother Does this journey she's on sound at all familiar to you? What do you wish you'd heard or felt from your family when you were growing up? She and my ex (her dad) aren't close and she hasn't told him any of this. He rarely talks with or sees them so he doesn't know them much now. Their relationship fell into occasional contact when she was 14. He's LGBTQ friendly but she doesn't know how to tell him. (Cont)
@PaganMother I don't know how to advise them on that other than to tell them it's his fault he's lost connection. Not theirs. How did you tell your family?