But you do need what the culture of high school does to kids, which is to create a ridiculous amount of stress over a decision that quite frankly DOES NOT MATTER. That decision of course is which excellent college you go to. They are all the same, unless your 18 year old has a very specific niche career desire.
https://www.lawyersgunsmoneyblog.com/2024/09/the-ridiculousness-of-modern-high-school-education
Personal:
My neighbor kids now away at State College, one at Western Oregon, and the other at OSU. Never had any of this bullshit. Because they were homeschooled their whole life. But their friends in public high school sure did. And man, the kids hated it. I mean really hated all this crap.
"No one cares where you went...
And those that do... Aren't worth knowing..."
Yep.
My neighbor kids have no idea what they are going to major in. They were taught to remain flexible. To seek out all kinds of courses. To find their passion by doing, not by what others tell them. This comes from their mom.
@corlin One of my favorite lines from that article:
"...what is really being squeezed out is the value of reflection. "
@corlin my dad told us it doesn't matter where you go for undergraduate college, although it's best to choose one that has a wide variety of courses available so you can find something interesting. it does matter where you go if you continue on to Master's & Doctorate, though.
that said, he was pushing me hard to go into teaching for some reason... but he was ok when i chose agriculture
@redenigma @corlin he was dead right. Go to a good school with a lot of choices as an undergraduate. Be selective and knowledgeable if you go to graduate school. Your department of matters, your advisor matters, and whether you can have a good relationship with that person matters most of all.
@DavidKMresists @corlin i had a friend that was attending MIT (i lived at MIT on weekends when my roommate's boyfriend came up to UNH) & invited him to dinner with my parents, so dad (being a dad) asked him what his major was. Chris replied "it's a dual major in mathematics & philosophy"
dad: "so, what are you thinking of doing once you graduate?"
Chris: "well, with that dual major there's really only two possibilities, teaching or farming"
@corlin
The kids reflect the parents...
In our car it was their mom pushing
the "good" college... And me telling them on the side... Do well in your course work and get your first job...
After that it all goes from there...
No one cares where you went...
And those that do... Aren't worth knowing...
But yes... Fort special niche 120 hour a week post college first jobs in investment banking... They care...
But that's a different breed to do that...