I'm sorry, blue. What does your heart tell you? Trust your instincts.
@tiaugn @BarelyAwake You have a right to take care of yourself, even if it causes the other person pain. Since she doesn’t seem to have a problem doing something that was sure to cause you pain I’d say you’re the only one looking out for you anyway so protect yourself.
Don’t use the excuse that she didn’t want you to find out (thus hurting you), it’s pretty much a given that secrets will always come out. Take care of yourself, don’t allow bitterness to overwhelm you, just move on.