@Oyetessa

I understand that. My husband and I come from abusive families. We had to learn to apologize, because our particular situations resulted in some selfishness (as a defense). But, we did it.

But we tell each other "thank you" for even the littlest things. We never want to take for granted the safety and compassion we've given each other.

@Oyetessa similar. My father was abusive to my mother and they were both alcoholics. Wife ex was abusive. We do the same thing.