Much sadness here today. And a lot of gratitude that hubby made the trip home a few weeks ago.
My 90yo MIL is in Intensive Care after a series of strokes. She’s ready…we’re not. Dad won’t last long after Mom as he has stated clearly he’s waiting for her to go first. 🥺
We know they have to go but damn it’s hard when it’s happening. Hubby is pretty stoic and at peace because they said goodbye when he was there.
Found this photo on FB! Wish I had one of Mom handy.
@NorCalCherylLyn So hard to let them go
@KarenSohne really is. Trying to focus on the wonderful life they’ve lived together…70+ years is amazing! And that they are truly ready to go. They got DNR bracelet a few months ago. 😞
@KarenSohne it is hard but it’s something that they need I think.
@NorCalCherylLyn l do think that some want that permission, sometimes it's a spoken permission, or sometimes it's the moment the family goes home for a meal or a rest
We need to look at what this person wanted for themselves at the end of their lives. Did they want ICU, beeping, blinking monitors, IV drips? Or would they want a quiet place, with just their loved ones? Maybe favourite music or a beloved pet? I know what l want, when l get to where the end is in sight.
@KarenSohne when my Stepdad passed we’d had them remove supportive care and the room was quiet. It was weird that he died in the 60mins I’d gone for a shower.
@NorCalCherylLyn l was a nurse, there were many times it happened like that. As if the dying loved one couldn't bear to say goodbye either, and they slipped away in the time it took the family to go to the coffee shop in the lobby, or in your case, leave the bedside for a quick shower. Hugs to you and all your loved ones going through this difficult time
( pass those hugs around! )
@KarenSohne I will share them…
@NorCalCherylLyn it is an aching, wrenching act of love to let them go, to tell them it's ok to leave