Divorce sucks....that's it, that's the toot 😞
@MarvelousMadi13 Totally agree. Ours was amicable. I wish we could go back to what was, but right now I can't even support myself.
@poemblaze ours has not been amicable unfortunately. I made a few mistakes regarding my transition and how I went about it. I'm hoping at some point we can be amicable
@MarvelousMadi13 @poemblaze
I'm so sorry you're going thru this. Whether amicable or not so kind, it's a devastating thing (for most anyway).😞
While my divorce was amicable, it was anything but painless for me and almost 20 yrs later it still hurts.
*hugs*
@see_the_sus @poemblaze thanks, hopefully the pain gets a little better in time
I liken divorce to the death of a loved one. Not only can it cause rifts between people but the emotions come in waves throughout life.
I am getting less, how to say, using him in a sentence? Like, for years when I would talk about past stuff where he was involved, I would say, "My ex and I." But I began to realize that I don't have to include him in the story. I can just tell people, "I moved to NY after college," instead of "He and I moved..."
@see_the_sus @MarvelousMadi13 Probably not healthy, but I still consider her my wife. I'm not going to remarry. She was the right person. I was an ass.
@poemblaze Mind if I ask how long you were married & when the divorce was?
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@see_the_sus @poemblaze we were married for almost 11 years but together the almost 13. We are still going through it now, we are in mediation but I need to try and figure finances before we finalize it
I have to run off now but I'll check in periodically throughout the day.
Hugs a plenty for you both! ♥️ ♥️
@see_the_sus @poemblaze thanks, I appreciate it!!!
@see_the_sus @poemblaze thanks, I'll def take a look at that. I'm trying to he nice to myself, just not easy at times
@MarvelousMadi13 @poemblaze
I just learned how to find "old" convos. I've been losing track of conversations, especially when I go to bed and wake up because the Notifications column only go so far back.
How are you feeling today?
@see_the_sus @poemblaze how is that exactly? I've been ok, I'm trying get my head out of my you know what and focus on the important things right now
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If you go to your profile and click on "Posts and Replies" it'll show everything.
Sending you calm vibes for your day.
@see_the_sus @poemblaze ahhh awesome 😃 thanks for the help 😃
@MarvelousMadi13 @poemblaze
Remember to give yourself love and hugs. We're all human and imperfect.
You might be interested in reading this book, it helped me a lot as my marriage was imploding, "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz.
It's a very small book & at first, its advice can seem simplistic, but for me, as I grasped the deep meaning of each agreement, it was like a lightbulb exploded. I try to re-read it every year.
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6596.The_Four_Agreements