So I have this friend that I was so close with, like daily for years it was one of those don't see one without the other, she got married bought a house,her kid got older and her job from pizza tosser to County Social worker so I get it, quality replaces quantity. Anyhow, she keeps doing his thing of telling me she wants to take me out for Thai at "our groups" favorite place etc and then flaking, even when I found out about lung cancer, why do people do this?

@Tattoomonkey29

Had a friend like that.

They do it as long as we allow it.

Friendships end.

@LnzyHou Yeah, there is nothing worse than someone not being able to just not make plans they don't intend to keep. Especially when they are in recovery!! I get that life changes, she's in the late 30's kid playing football, working for promotions, climbing up that social/financial status ladder mode and I'm not and never was that lol!

@Tattoomonkey29 @LnzyHou

I'm sorry it seems she's taking your friendship for granted.

If you really want to stay friends with her, here's what I'd do. I'd say "Oh, I know how crazy your life is these days. Tell you what - instead of making plans you can't keep, why don't you call me when you're free and if I'm free then, too, we can get together and have some fun"

Then Iet it go and get on with life. She'll call or she won't. And you can decide whether to put more effort into it.