I have always been a one chance person. I give people one chance to show me who they are and if what I see is a clear indication of a future of problems then I excuse myself from that relationship.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

People often say well everyone has bad days and that is true but your bad day has nothing to do with me and I shouldn't be on the receiving end of your emotional dysregulation and inability to function like a rational, healthy human being.

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Triggers are not your body telling you to lash out and get angry at some stranger on the Internet.

Triggers are your whole body's way of telling you to take a step back and look at yourself and feel your feelings and understand where they are truly coming from and how out of your control they are.

Triggers are your whole body's way of saying it cares enough about you to warn you when you need to work on yourself.

Listen to them. Pay less attention to strangers online and more to yourself.

It is good to be made aware that you have a weakness that needs to be examined and when you have more to go in your journey to be a whole and healthy person.

Pay attention to your triggers. Pay attention to how dysregulated and wild your emotions are. Pay attention to the moments when you think everything is about you especially when it's not.

Your whole soul is trying to tell you something is wrong. Your whole soul is trying to tell you to pay attention and do some self examination.

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Triggers let you know when something is wrong or dysregulated in your system.

Triggers fire when something important has made itself known to your defenses and they react to protect you because you could be harmed in some way from something you have yet to properly resolve in yourself.

These are good things to know.

It is good to know when you have things that you need to work on.

It is good to know when you have yet to truly resolve something and grow stronger from that fight.

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If something I post makes you angry because you think it's about you, even though we don't know each other and I have no idea what you're going through, how you live, what you think and I probably don't care ... you should probably think about why random thoughts trigger you so much and why you feel the need to center yourself in things that aren't about you.

Triggers are nothing to be ashamed of. Triggers are GOOD THINGS. They are warning systems for your soul.

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If you can gain something positive from any of the things I've learned in my 50+ years that's great and I'm happy if anything I share about myself, my journey, my thoughts can be helpful to any journey you are on yourself. I believe strongly that sharing who we are and where we have traveled and how that has shaped us can help other people who are also traveling their own paths. It's how we know we're fundamentally the same, searching for the same light and fighting the same darkness.

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What I post in my feed is knowledge and wisdom I have learned and earned in my personal journey though my lived experience. It may be relevant to you but it's not about you.

You know how I know?

Because I don't know you. You're a stranger on the Internet. Nothing is directed at you because I'm speaking into a vast space where many people can see it.

Few things in the world are about you. You only center yourself and you only see yourself in things that you want to see yourself in.

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Try as they might, though, none of these series have been able to successfully recreate the same alchemy of violence, character development, fantasy worldbuilding, and moment-to-moment unpredictability that made Thrones not only so watchable, but downright addictive. The only show that has come even remotely close to doing that is — shockingly enough — #Arcane.

https://youtu.be/ysqiEC6bLUI

Ever since Game of Thrones ended, Hollywood’s biggest streamers and TV networks have worked hard to try and replicate its success. Studios like Netflix and Amazon have invested huge loads of money into high-profile fantasy shows like The Witcher, The Wheel of Time, and The Lord of the Rings: The Rings of Power, while HBO has attempted to keep the Thrones train going with a prequel series, House of the Dragon, and multiple other in-development spinoffs as well.

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𝙍𝙚𝙫𝙤𝙡𝙪𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙗𝙮 𝙁𝙞𝙧𝙚: 𝙉𝙚𝙬 𝙔𝙤𝙧𝙠'𝙨 𝘼𝙛𝙧𝙤-𝙄𝙧𝙞𝙨𝙝 𝙐𝙥𝙧𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙛 1741 is , a new graphic novel by David Lester and Paul Buhle, adapted from Marcus Rediker's book, 𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙈𝙖𝙣𝙮-𝙃𝙚𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙙 𝙃𝙮𝙙𝙧𝙖: 𝙎𝙖𝙞𝙡𝙤𝙧𝙨, 𝙎𝙡𝙖𝙫𝙚𝙨, 𝘾𝙤𝙢𝙢𝙤𝙣𝙚𝙧𝙨, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙃𝙞𝙙𝙙𝙚𝙣 𝙃𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙤𝙧𝙮 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙍𝙚𝙫𝙤𝙡𝙪𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙧𝙮 𝘼𝙩𝙡𝙖𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙘.

It's a fictionalized account based loosely on the court records, imagining that there was indeed an inspiring act of solidarity between the Black, Irish, and Cuban people—an organized workers' uprising against the power of capital.

Perhaps unsurprisingly, they were swiftly (and brutally) punished for these supposed crimes—even though evidence was scant, and the few eyewitness testimonies were constantly changing, and likely coerced by the very same authorities intent on making an example of the lower-class workers.

So what really happened in that fateful spring?

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The New York Conspiracy, also known as the Slave Insurrection of 1741, was a true historical event that took place in lower Manhattan in 1741.

But the only real record of the uprising is from the trial that happened afterwards.

Nearly two hundred people were arrested—mostly free Blacks and Irish immigrants, along with some enslaved Black and Caribbean people—for allegedly conspiring to burn down the city and overthrow their oppressive white overlords.

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The fastest way to destroy something is to overwhelm it with "good intentions". I would think this would be obvious to everyone. If it's not just look out the window at the real world.

You can't save people who don't want to save themselves and you cannot change the minds of people who gravitate towards things that are bad for them.

Stop wasting energy on dead weight and focus on the people who have the will, the knowledge, the desire, and the curiosity to seek out light on their own.

One more time just to be perfectly clear:

𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩𝘺, 𝘸𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦, 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘤𝘶𝘴, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘯 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘰 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦. 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘥𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝙊𝙉 𝙏𝙃𝙀𝙄𝙍 𝙊𝙒𝙉.

𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘰𝘯𝘦. 𝘐𝘵'𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘶𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘮𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘢𝘨𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘰𝘰𝘮 𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘢𝘤𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘳 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘯 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘺 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. 𝘐'𝘮 𝘴𝘰 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘰𝘧 𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘺𝘤𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘨𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶'𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘣𝘢𝘵. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘊𝘰𝘚𝘰 𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘷𝘦𝘴 ... 𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘸𝘰𝘯'𝘵 ... 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵'𝘴 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘢𝘴 𝘸𝘦𝘭𝘭. - Elaine Barlow (2022)

People who need to find this space, will find it when they choose to look.

The people that know that more of the same spaces are not the best environments for what they are looking for will seek out what they need.

The people that don't follow the crowd, the people that think for themselves, the people that don't need algorithms and manipulation to tell them how to behave and what to take an interest in will find a new home that gives them what they need.

We don't need zealots.

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In the same way that good people attract good people and the light seeks out more light, such people who are fed up with living in darkness will automatically seek out new places of light and positivity on their own. They don't need to dragged, pulled, convinced, cajoled. They don't need to be manipulated or lectured. They don't need that much prodding. They will do a lot of the work on their own and they will research what they need and at most they need support and some encouragement.

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When healthy, well meaning, regulated people are seeking change, they have the patience, the focus, and the functional intelligence to find their way into spaces that are going to align with where they are trying to go and who they are trying to be.

These people will decide that on their own. They have the strength and the will to make that journey because they know they want better and they are willing to expend the energy to seek out a new environment that supports their change.

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#FirstCoffeeThoughts

I think people find their paths as they need to. That is something I firmly believe. I don't think you can drag someone kicking and screaming into change.

People change when they decide they want to, when all the right things line up FOR THEM, and enough outside forces make them feel secure enough to begin the process of change.

But change is ultimately up to the individual and many difference things have to be aligned for that change to happen and be permanent.

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On the ground and first floors, commercial spaces benefit from street-level visibility and accessibility. The upper levels accommodate a mixed-use program of residential apartments, office spaces, and a premium hotel. The volume facing Myslym Street includes diverse apartment layouts and a hotel with panoramic city views, while the volume along Pitarka Street hosts apartments and office spaces with dedicated lobbies for each function.