𝘒𝘦𝘦𝘱 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘧𝘰𝘤𝘶𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘺 𝘰𝘯 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘭𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘳𝘯, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘣𝘦 𝘤𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘣𝘶𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘯𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴. - Epictetus

Many people use other people as distractions.

Many people use other people's paths to distract from the fact that they don't have one.

Many people get involved in everyone else's business because they have no lives of their own.

Many people look outside themselves because they are afraid to look inside themselves.

Many people invest time, focus, energy, and emotion in everything other than themselves because they don't feel worthy of their own investment.

As the kids say: 𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪?

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The problem is when you think that any kind of emotional input and output suddenly gives your life meaning.

Emotionally investing in everything that you make your business does not automatically mean your life has taken on new meaning. It means that you're desperately searching for meaning and you believe that emotional response equates to meaning. It doesn't.

Emotions are chemical responses and they can be easily triggered, they don't automatically denote deeper meaning or connection.

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There is a difference between following your path in life and embracing that path and finding that it happens to coincide with you being a vital part of the existence of others ... and just inserting yourself into everything because you have no idea who you are, what your path is, and are so bored that you can't find any meaning in your life outside of piggybacking on the meaning of other people's existences.

Some have a calling and other people are just simply bored and seeking meaning.

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Learning to mind your own business encompasses a few different ideas, but the bottom line of it really comes down to the amount of energy and emotional investment you put into things that have absolutely nothing to do with you or your life's direction.

I've written before about how people don't change much after high school. The core of their personality forms and their character solidifies during this time.

Having a lack of self and being fixated on other people's business starts there.

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Such people have nothing invested in what they are responding or reacting to, they are just looking for an outlet for their wayward emotions or boredom because they haven't built a life that is valuable enough for them to invest quality time or effort into.

Everyone else's lives or business are of more interest and makes them feel some sense of existing just to be a part of it. It's sad really and very telling.

Such people are ... quite empty and make themselves up of everyone else.

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What Shizuru is saying in Mai-Hime is that Nao is lacking in any sense of self so she seeks everything in the business of other people.

Nao's entire existence is made up of monitoring and investing herself and her emotions in the lives of everyone else because she has no life of her own. She has no lane, so she constantly gets into everyone else's.

I find this is true about people who have very little else to do other than scroll social media just to find things to respond or react to.

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The problem with non-critical thinkers is that they don't tend to recognize what is and isn't important to take into themselves.

They think everything is worth their attention, emotional investment, and mental load, especially anything that makes them feel emotions.

Many people are just addicted to a constant inflow of information and attention seeking behaviors just exacerbate that addiction to emotional stimulus that they lack in their own empty lives.

It's boredom and lack of self.

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Essentially the line is "perhaps if you were less nosy, you would be less angry" ... and there was something so brilliantly succinct about that line that it has stuck with me since 2007.

It's brilliant and something that I think could benefit a lot of needlessly angry people whose mental, physical, and spiritual health are constantly on the decline.

Not everything is your business and not everything needs to be or should be.

𝙇𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙙 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙗𝙪𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨.

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#FirstCoffeeThoughts

There is a line from Mai-Hime that I used to quote often during my Communications class.

It's spoken by a character I actually quite liked to a character that is the embodiment of someone I can't stand; someone who is intensely angry all the time, about everything to the point where their whole personality is formed around being irritated and short with everyone.

The English translation was a little rough, but my Japanese friend explained it well ...

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Refreshed and ready to start the day 🔥

#sauna

Morning CoSo ❤️ Up early. Sauna time. 👍🏾

Apple TV+ has renewed Gary Oldman’s hit series #SlowHorses for a sixth season.

The season will be based on the sixth and seventh books in Mick Herron’s series, Joe Country and Slough House.

I wasn't happy about #NCISHawaii being canceled especially to have it replaced with #NCISOrigins which is essentially a white male show. But seeing #MarielMolino here makes me happy.

I LOVED her in #TheWatchfulEye and #PromisedLand. She didn't get enough focus for those roles or her presence on screen. She's an incredible presence and I hope to see more of her range here.

And I believe this is Lori Petty here as the pathologist ...

𝘚𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘰𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘪𝘵 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘭𝘰𝘤𝘬 𝘶𝘴 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘦𝘥 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘸𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘯'𝘵 𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘻𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘤𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭 (𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘱𝘺, 𝘦𝘥𝘶𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘤 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘦𝘴, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘰 𝘰𝘯), 𝘸𝘦 𝘱𝘶𝘵 𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘨𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘪-𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘪𝘴𝘮 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬. 𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘴, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘤𝘬𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘨𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘪𝘥𝘴𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘪-𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘪𝘴𝘮 𝘢𝘥𝘷𝘰𝘤𝘢𝘤𝘺 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘦 𝘋𝘐𝘚𝘈𝘚𝘛𝘙𝘖𝘜𝘚 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘢𝘳𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘻𝘦𝘥 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘸𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘥𝘷𝘰𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘰𝘯 𝘣𝘦𝘩𝘢𝘭𝘧 𝘰𝘧. - #TonyNabors

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𝘛𝘰𝘰 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘭𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘧𝘶𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘷𝘦𝘴! 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘢 𝘭𝘰𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘮𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘦 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘴 𝘸𝘦𝘭𝘭-𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘢 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘪-𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘪𝘴𝘮 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘪-𝘰𝘱𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘦𝘴. 𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘢 𝘴𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘰𝘳 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺.

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Time for #Arrow S1 and tribe workouts. I'm on the #Peloton and @IronButterfly is on the #Aviron and Oliver Queen is on the TV not failing the city. I've missed this show and @IronButterfly has never seen it. This epicness started it all ❤️ Miss me some Felicity ❤️

Paragon tea time!

Time for me to dive into Steam Fest! There are so many epic demos to explore! I'm not looking forward to those games not getting released until 3 years from now 🤣 but it will be nice to know what has the potential to be coming.👍🏾

Remember to protect your peace and schedule things for your own sense of balance and that includes free time. Free time doesn't always just happen ... sometimes you have to intentionally make the time for it. ❤️

I hope everyone has the day they deserve today ❤️