Impossible Burgers are my goto for lunches often. I order them in bulk actually from a restaurant supply place because it's cheaper. They also carry the hard to find Impossible Chicken Breast fillets and I got some as well. I will never eat real chicken again. Period. These are epic just like the burgers.

Really you guys? Actually Tauri was her first and Vir was like ... "Lemme just get in here. I can use your fluffy butt for a pillow. There's room right? OMG there's totally room."

#CatsofCoSo

Tauri fell asleep on my desk right on top of a Ziploc bag full of some things I needed. I asked him if I could trade with him. I offered him Adam my Existential Dread duck and he accepted my offer.

#CatsofCoSo

Reverse Osmosis gets out SOME of the contaminants in the tap water but not all ... but ... I didn't expect it to still smell like sewage after sitting for like a half a day.

We NEVER drink the water out of our tap ... I don't even like showering in it. I come out of the shower smelling like a yak.

But I thought the RO system would help ... it doesn't ...

When I go past my fishtanks I notice this smell coming from them sometimes. Fishtanks shouldn't smell BAD. I mean there is a smell especially a planted tank but it shouldn't smell like a swamp or something. I keep thinking there is a problem with the water ... we use tap water (which we don't drink) and I treat the tap water for use in the aquarium ... but just now ... I went to drink water in my water bottle and it has the same smell. This is water I put in there yesterday from our RO system.

I just found something I have always needed but didn't know existed until now ...

In the process of preparing for homelessness we started moving everything into pre-paid storage and I wanted a way to keep track of what was where beyond writing on the top of a box or keeping a list somewhere.

These Smart Labels were EXACTLY what I needed. I didn't even know these were a thing!

Now we have to take EVERYTHING out of storage and RE-LABEL IT with these. Worth the trouble!

#JustFYI

This is also something I see women do more than men ... and again its absolutely CLEAR TO ME why more women adapt these kinds of attitudes because they are more often on the receiving end of various kinds of abuses and mistreatment ESPECIALLY women who are in business for themselves.

MINDFULNESS and SELFNESS are IMPORTANT for healing ....

All this over an "um no" ... ? Yes.

That "um no" tells me that they feel like they can talk like this to someone and that is their "wall of defense" or their "attitude of strength" or their "attitude of condescension" that they adopt to protect themselves from others ... it's unprofessional and rude and tells me a lot.

Not everyone is your abuser. This is just good reference to have in general. Your trauma being misdirected and projected is a PROBLEM that YOU need to work on.

I am mostly a recluse ... and I RARELY interact with people because I just find people so ... unaware and uncaring when it comes to how they treat others. I am ALWAYS on the end of someone elses unmanaged mental illness or dysregulated emotions ... ESPECIALLY ONLINE but also offline too. It seems like no matter who I meet or under what circumstances there is going to be someone unhealed, angry, out of control, selfish ... and just unconcerned about how they speak to or how they treat others.

It takes work sure ... to not vomit your issues on other people ... it takes MINDFULNESS for one ... and also a steady practice of SELFNESS as well. I have #chronicpain awful pain every single day but I'm not out here running around taking that out on others ... I know how to recognize what is a "me problem" and what is a "you problem" and my pain and my health problems are a "me problem" ... it has nothing to do with anyone else and therefore no one should be subjected to my response to it.

If you are a young person, I can overlook that ... I don't expect young people to have any kind of healing in place for things like that. Full grown ass adult though? That's a choice you're making ...

I deeply dislike shitty attitudes. I especially dislike being on the receiving end of someone elses unresolved trauma. I get some crap because YOU got mistreated by multiple people in the past. This is one of those cycles of trauma that I hate being on the end of ... You have developed whatever attitude you feel you needed because you are used to being screwed over or not paid or whatever so you now release this on me with some flippant "um no" in response to a perfectly normal question.

It would be a GenZ thing ... and thats fine ... that's what works for them ... but this woman, based on her photo, doesn't look like a GenZ, she looks like a full grown ass woman ... so ... I'm at a loss as to why she would give me some teenage "um no" ... in any kind of professional correspondence.

Especially when there's literally PAGES upon PAGES of people who do EXACTLY what you do and in similar styles. I could throw a rock on Fiverr and hit an artist who can do what I am looking for ... I don't need to deal with someone who isn't professional or someone who has an attitude. Talent or not why would I support that?

I'm overly generous when it comes to $$ ... I have the ability to and I spend most of my extra income on other supporting other people's projects and talents. That is something I like doing and think is important to do when you can. Dealing with a shitty attitude isn't something that makes me feel very excited to contribute to someones work or creative talent regardless of how good it is. You can be creative and talented and also not an asshole.

I'm not trying to police anyone's language. I really don't care about the STYLE of how someone speaks ... I just don't like the attitude when it comes to a business transaction. That isn't ... appropriate.

Talking to people you know or acquaintances or on social media or whatever that's fine ... but when someone is looking to hire you for a job ... I dunno ... I don't think the response was appropriate or the follow up questions. Is it any of your business how I paid for other projects or how I did other transactions? Just say yes or no ... or just say ... I prefer the full amount in advance or whatever it is.

"Um no." isn't the response you give ... unless you're a Gen Z or something.

I said: For most work I paid half up front, then I got shown some sketches or ideas for the final project, I approved them, then paid the other half at the end and they then sent me the files.

She responded with: Oh. Ok.

As of now ... I really don't want to work with this person. Just from the attitude alone. If people screw you over I get it, but I don't talk like that to people who are potential clients.

So there are a few different ways you can respond to questions ... and text doesn't technically have a "tone" ... but some ways of responding in text DO have a tone.

I consider that to be a tone.

She then looked at my profile on the platform to see that I had done other transactions there before and said ...

"You have done other orders here before. May I ask how you paid them?"

For a minute I almost said no because ... seriously? WTF?

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I understand that generally artists get screwed over a lot ... as a web designer I have had to deal with a lot of issues with people not paying and stuff like that. I get it. But ... attitude aside, if you want business, you can't treat everyone like a criminal or someone who could potentially screw you.

I was inquiring with an artist to work on a logo for me and I didn't know her fee structure. I asked if she wanted half up front and her response was ...

"Um no. You pay full in advance."

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