^^^ (cont'd.)

...reference are a bear.

^^^ (cont'd.)

...January 5, 1990 (2nd semester, freshman year, transfer student orientation), and this is the first topical conversation we've had where she got openly angry with me. It was so strange. I dreamt some relatedly to it overnight, because I spent a while after the convo sorting through aspects of its meanderings, to re-examine points made and to roll things around some to look at from different angles and distances, just to see if I missed stuff.

Experiential frames of...

^^^ (cont'd.)

...a lot of "shadow work" and the like. I know the books and practices she talked about. Many are Psychotherapy 101, but they've been serially rebranded since the '60s and had some blendings-in of a fair dose of rather doctored/edited Liberation Theology, (fake, a.k.a. US West Coast) Buddhism, a salamagundy of bumper-sticker high-school socialist and communist political theory, and other essentially Me Generation pollutants.

I love Phillipa to death. We've been friends since...

^^^ (cont'd.)

"Intention is everything", she claimed, and not even real intention but intention stated ex post facto when they get criticized/busted/called-down for it by the victims/recipients or bystanders.

She is not alone in her espousal of this kind of, what I can only really classify as, gaslighting and passive-aggression, this desperate avoidance of criticism, judgment, or accounting of people or themselves. Truly, I was astonished to hear her say such things, but she's been doing...

: In a mood this AM because prior to bedtime I was on the phone with an old friend who wound up trying to convince me that people's behavior and the things that they do (or don't do) is not at all something they can or should be judged on... of they didn't mean it, i.e., if it was due to mental illness, "trauma", having only "no good choices", or whatever. I mean treating people like shit consistently, including but not limited to lying, stealing, cheating, abusing, ghosting, benching, and more.

: When I was a kid and this album came out, every last kid I knew at school and in town thought I was a lunatic for loving it. I mean the white kids, the black kids, and the hispanic kids. Well, there was one exception: Kenny Curry. He was a dummer in the high school band, and I knew him tangentially because I was about to go into high school and was a drummer in middle school.

"Rockit"
H. Hancock

#CoSoMusic #ProperLegend #music

https://youtu.be/GHhD4PD75zY

: Salamagundy, the salad the West forgot... probably on purpose

#CoSoHistory #CoSoFood #history #food #CoSoTownsends

https://youtu.be/gwRHKcz9jqE

: Oddly, as a Sunday it has been awfully Mondaylike.

: Linux has the Ubuntu distro.

It needs a Cthulhu distro.

#IT #OS #computers

@th3j35t3r

: i am being derailed this morning by trivia, all kinds of trivia. So I think that's how I will consciously spend the rest of my morning.

So, I am no long derailed.

3/2: ...they will look back on later and say, "Damn, I fucked that up" and/or "Damn, I fucked them over." (Note: This is not uncommon and is part of growing when you're below majority age and up through/into your twenties. After that is where the chaos is.)

Vigilance doesn't mean "a good defense is a good offense". It means vigilance. It means pay attention, and you need to do that with folks because well over most folks only pay attention after the shit's gone down twisted.

#protip

2/2: If you do not make a civil exit ASAP but instead choose to stick around, which I do understand doing completely because emotions, be sure to stay vigilant and don't slouch on minding how things continue to play out.

Some people mellow, but most, in my direct experience and observation, do not. The hard part, the real unknown, is whether or not with you they'll get past that whatever-it-is and have a healthy relationship of whatever kind or if you'll wind up being another lesson that...

1/2: A combination of relationship (of any kind) red flags that morph into a Giant Red Flag, Warning Signal Flares, and Flashing Neons Signs Saying Danger Ahead are someone saying to you or about anyone else:

"If you/they liked/loved/respected me, they would [stop doing whatever it is they don't like you/them doing]."

and

"This is just how I am, and you/they need to deal with it. If you/they liked/loved me, you/they would accept me as I am and not try to change me."

A #protip follows:

#parenting #LOL

: I remember the original, and I am so glad folks have run with it. There are human, dog, cat, horse, and more versions of it.

#CoSoComedy #viral #LOL

#farts #AI #highbrowhumor

: Bonjour, @CoSoNauts.

Awakery has happened, and I am enjoying brekkienoms and a cuppa covfefe.

How go your respective mornings?