1/2: A combination of relationship (of any kind) red flags that morph into a Giant Red Flag, Warning Signal Flares, and Flashing Neons Signs Saying Danger Ahead are someone saying to you or about anyone else:
"If you/they liked/loved/respected me, they would [stop doing whatever it is they don't like you/them doing]."
and
"This is just how I am, and you/they need to deal with it. If you/they liked/loved me, you/they would accept me as I am and not try to change me."
A #protip follows:
2/2: If you do not make a civil exit ASAP but instead choose to stick around, which I do understand doing completely because emotions, be sure to stay vigilant and don't slouch on minding how things continue to play out.
Some people mellow, but most, in my direct experience and observation, do not. The hard part, the real unknown, is whether or not with you they'll get past that whatever-it-is and have a healthy relationship of whatever kind or if you'll wind up being another lesson that...
@thedisasterautist Thank you.
3/2: ...they will look back on later and say, "Damn, I fucked that up" and/or "Damn, I fucked them over." (Note: This is not uncommon and is part of growing when you're below majority age and up through/into your twenties. After that is where the chaos is.)
Vigilance doesn't mean "a good defense is a good offense". It means vigilance. It means pay attention, and you need to do that with folks because well over most folks only pay attention after the shit's gone down twisted.
#protip