Divorce sucks....that's it, that's the toot 😞
@MarvelousMadi13 Totally agree. Ours was amicable. I wish we could go back to what was, but right now I can't even support myself.
@poemblaze ours has not been amicable unfortunately. I made a few mistakes regarding my transition and how I went about it. I'm hoping at some point we can be amicable
@MarvelousMadi13 @poemblaze
I'm so sorry you're going thru this. Whether amicable or not so kind, it's a devastating thing (for most anyway).😞
While my divorce was amicable, it was anything but painless for me and almost 20 yrs later it still hurts.
*hugs*
@see_the_sus @MarvelousMadi13 Same here. I did things that made it impossible to trust me. It's been 20 years, we're friends, but likely never will be what we were.
I suffered my first emotional breakdown in Aug '02. In Oct he told me he had fallen in love w/ a woman from our group of friends. He thought I'd be accepting & got angry that I wasn't. We'd always had an agreement that if the other fell in love w/ someone else we would first talk w/one another before acting. He broke that rule.
Yet I was the one who lost all my friends & was made to feel unwelcome at the clubs & cafes we were known at.
I'm not bitter. Nope. 😢
@see_the_sus @MarvelousMadi13 That's awful. I'm sorry. What I said may sound strange. I'm not bothering her. I just know my marrying someone else isn't the answer
@poemblaze @MarvelousMadi13
Nah, not strange at all.
Part of my story is that we're sort of friends now. Initially, we had to remain in contact because when we were married we had consolidated our student loans, and every 6 months, we had to refile for deferment, together, which we did over the phone. He now pays the majority of the loan, (an unspoken agreement), as he & she have high-paying jobs (meanwhile I've cont to struggle).
We now chat periodically over on Google Chat.