The most important brain hack you could ever imagine. And it works every time. If you want to be smarter, more creative, a super star, happy? Read this now.
My theory of human happiness, creativity, and performance. IQ is fluid as is EQ and it is based on self knowledge and self acceptance and measured against authenticity, empathy, and community. I also explain the 5 primary fears that drive us outside of existential ones.
Thanksgiving 2023
memories of thanksgivings past
are flowing with my tears so fast
and I am missing you hard today
in ways I find so hard to say
laugher joy and energies
friends, food, and sometimes frenemies
we gathered to bring together these
pass the cranberries if you please
Full poem here:
https://medium.com/@beselfevident/thanksgiving-2023-3bfe7ede1803
This is my most personal piece I have ever written. Very sensitive triggering topics including child rape. I hope it helps someone.
How crazy would people think I am if I was a different person everyday. To practice acting. And then when I meet people, I inhabit a character. And then at some point, tell them, I'm going to do some acting now, and then I just be myself. People would be so confused. Who is the real Evident? To me it would be evident, but to everyone else?.
@LordFentonGaming Can you do voices and stay in character? And do you do voices as you DM? Are you on par with the best? If so, reach out to me, I have a modest proposal. If this message rubs you wrong in any way, just don't reply, I will not take it personally. And I'll still follow you. Cheers, Steve
My first live stream is, well, live!
I just posted a new article on How to be Billionaire that people will actually like.
https://medium.com/@beselfevident/how-to-a-billionaire-that-people-love-baf142f790b8
What is the most important thing you can give someone who is trying to reshape their life? Validation. Not just a 'good job'. And not 'Good job. I can see how much effort you've put into this.'. Those don't move the needle honestly.
When you give feedback, be specific. 'I'm glad you are trying out XYZ, what made you choose that?' or 'Nice song. I like the chorus, it's catchy. What did you mean by lyrics XYZ?'.
The difference between superstars and beggars is the validation they received.
My latest writing on medium.
My treatise on happiness = 1 divided by your fearOfLosingHappiness. Part 1 of my series on the mathematics of human happiness, creativity, and performance.
Who am I? Not Jean Valjean.
https://medium.com/@beselfevident/the-man-who-didnt-know-he-was-there-682221a2602e
I am looking for a Cognitive Psychologist or Neuroscientist -- one who is in research. I have come up with some insights into happiness, creativity, and performance that I'd like to discuss. I have evolved my ideas over the past year as I've had non-trivial conversations with 1,200 people. That's over 400 hours. I plan to publish my thoughts but would like to talk to an expert and possibly co-publish if they agree. And revise if they can show me why they don't.
I joined CS a few years ago with a different email address. I've been following the founder for many years on twitter. But I wasn't living authentically at the time, so it didn't last. Now I am. And while I'll still post on other sites, I think this is where I'll make my home. I am working on a show that I think will become big, and I will send everyone here. We need a safe space to just be normal, empathetic humans. Anyone with agendas or who trade in debasement have no place in my life
I'm 57. I took stock my life over the past year. Quit working, ended a relationship that wasn't bringing me joy, I lost everything. But I discovered myself. Authenticity, Vulnerability, Empathy, and Community drive happiness. So that is why I am here. I am starting my life as an artist now--because over the last year my talents exploded. Singing, Dancing, Poetry, Writing. I'm starting a livestream that embodies all I value. And I'm looking to share other people's stories as well as mine
Starving artist age 57. I ditched corporate life, added another ex-wife, lost everything I'm a lowlife, now feeling larger than life!