@AskTheDevil I do appreciate you hearing me out and being willing to have a dialogue about it.

@Graci Thank you! Everyone deserves to be accepted and loved.:)

@LnzyHou Awww! Thank you. I just want him to be happy and safe.

@AskTheDevil Your whole point would have come across better had it been couched with compassion.

I don't disagree with the point that complication is fixed by uncomplicating the issue. The hiccup is the assumption that uncomplicating an issue is simple. In my experience, something is complicated precisely because it isn't simple.

The whole message would have felt less dismissive if the tone had been about being helpful rather than seeming like you only wanted to feel superior.

@AskTheDevil you don't have to say "every time" for it to come across as dismissive.

It sounds dismissive because your phrasing says, "I understand most people's circumstances better than they do."

In my experience, when someone says something is complicated, it often is because there's an aspect (or more than one) of it they don't have control over. You can't untangle the Christmas lights if someone else is holding half of them, until you can find a way to agree on how to untangle them.

@Render another one of the mostly-silent-multitudes speaking up to say that I hate that you no longer feel safe in your home. I don't know how to help in any tangible way, but know that you are appreciated and respected by a lot of us out here. Best wishes and I hope you'll be back to updating when you feel more comfortable. Thank you for everything.

@TheRealDelia ooof. Sending good vibes. The world is really terrifying. I can't even say "right now" because it's been terrifying for awhile. *hugs*

@AskTheDevil this comes across as very dismissive. "It's complicated" can mean that. It can also mean that you don't know the nuance of the person's experience and they're not interested in sharing that nuance. It can mean that they're exhausted by the situation & don't want to talk about it with you. It can mean the things you're suggesting won't work but they know you're going to argue with them, so they'd just rather not. It can be a nonconfrontational way to say it's none of your business.

Super happy that he trusts me with this. It may be hard for him to come out to his mom(my sister). But I'll always support him however I can. It's important to me to be a safe and stable harbor for him, if he needs it.

My nibling came out to me as trans today! It was accidental, because I saw his preferred pronouns in the vol database for an event he's helping with this weekend. So I reached out to him to ask if his badge name was how he wanted me to introduce him at the event (and also to clarify how he wanted me to handle family - ie, use fem pronouns & birth name, which is what he wants for now). He said he's been wanting to come out to me for a couple years, but didn't know when.

@TheRealDelia Yeah, it's seriously concerning :(

@NotSoEvilQueen it's not one of the highest selling genres. Romance is *the* highest grossing genre by a huge margin and has been for years. Anyone in the book business should know that.

@Kinnison he should vote for Jeffries. That'll teach 'em!

@TheRealDelia it (AI, not specifically Adobe Ai products) also means writers don't need editors anymore and readers don't need writers. Not really yay(ish) at all.