In the past 36 hours on this site you have seen two Black women express why they don't really feel safe here, a white person explaining to other white people why that is, and then that white person attacked by white people, mainly dudes, who either want everything to be beautiful or to just shut up and bake.
Banana bread!
In August!
I will never shut up.
#ShowTheWork
But if you complain about your day that other people would be delighted to have- don't get mad if no one replies.
@Shelter I have agreed with pretty much everything you've said.
I would also point out that in my experience, when you tell people off, they tend to see you as the enemy, and they then feel justified in not listening to the content of your speech.
And of course, part of that is their problem, but if you know that happens, you can try to work around it, so it's your problem also.
You didn't invent cognitive bias, but it did get invented, and we have to work around it.
Too fucking bad.
I'm not going to be discreet.
We're beyond that.
That's the problem.
@Shelter I'm merely making an observation. Sometimes the absolutely proper response is indeed to keep yelling.
But if you yell at people, understand that it makes them less likely to listen to you, and no matter how infuriating that it, it's a thing.
A safe place doesn't mean a completely comfortable place.
It's not bed on Sunday Morning with coffee.
This is and should be a safe place for everyone to be themselves and speak without censure.
If a person complains about their day in these racist United States don't holler to hashtag politics.
It's life.
#ShowTheWork