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My night, every night-
10pm give both kids their allergy meds and vitamins. 16 is fine. 14 who is mentally 5 is informed- "Eleven."
Stress watch the clock on my phone.
11pm- go into younger son's room, take his devices, do the goodnight ritual.
Go to my room and wait for nonsense or no nonsense.
No nonsense? Relax.