Iām going to be a vulnerable-too-much-personal-info-sharing-weirdo for a second. But tomorrow Iām going to discuss possible infertility concerns and itās got me so anxious.
Yes. I know Iām old. Yes I know itās literally the worst time to want another child.
But the heart wants and I am feeling like such an inadequate disappointment for myself, my husband, and our kiddo.
@earthshine husband and I had a chat about IVF, if weāre eligible for it. My employee benefits cover it 100% but for only one round. So we are united in giving it one solid try and after that if we cannot we will have the hard chat with the kiddo. But I donāt even know what other options are available.
Crazy things happen every day so Iām trying not to lose hope. My cousin tried for 15 years to have a child. Married a man with 3 daughters. Then Boom. 2020 she turned 40 and was with child.
@MotherDucker That's awesome! I wish you the best, honestly.
and don't worry about age...
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@MotherDucker You are not a disappointment ever my dear friend.
If this is where you feel called, then you have every bit of support I can offer. It is never the right time or wrong time, it is just the time, and we never get to pick ours.
If it is ordained that this path leads to another child, they will change the world, and with the heart you have, I am certain it will be for the better.
@NiveusLepus there arenāt words to express how yours touch my heart but I will try.
I am grateful that you are here, in this community to soothe hearts like mine without ever meeting me. The love you spread is aspirational.
@MotherDucker You are worth love, kindness support and understanding, always, and are always welcome. Love should be aspirational, I think, we should strive to love more. The world needs that and hope so much.
Youāre chasing a dream, and following the call of your heart. Your kiddo can look to that, and find the courage to chase their own dreams, as can others.
@MotherDucker you are perfect, exactly who you could be in this moment in time.
There will be other moments, you will be present in those too.
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@LaurelGreen thank you, sincerely.
@MotherDucker I get it. There is something unsettling about having the ability lessened or taken away. I hope all turns out well for you.
@awnaves itās even harder knowing that my daughter was a one try wonder. My husband and I agreed as soon as my neck healed from cervical discectomy and fusion, we would try for kids. š We got lucky on the first go after getting out of the C-collar.
Soā¦ itās been a rough year.
@MotherDucker Much love to you both.
@MotherDucker You are neither inadequate nor a disappointment. Circumstances are what they are. Your heart wants. That is enough. Wishing you love and hopeā¦infertility is tough on families. šš¼ā¤ļø
@MotherDucker do it! Have all the babies you can!!
I can't have kids, would have loved to.
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